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Google what the word Solipsist means next... you'll see they're, by definition, excluded.
Those who begin coercive elimination of dissent soon find themselves exterminating dissenters. Compulsory unification of opinion achieves only the unanimity of the graveyard.
Robert H. Jackson, West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette
Robert H. Jackson, West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette
indeed.Orange Dragon wrote:Google what the word Solipsist means next... you'll see they're, by definition, excluded.
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keeping_it_riel wrote:Before we go any further, the OP has made a serious post so if you feel he need to respond, keep your replies serious also. No smart ass stuff or trolling, thanks.
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a) he played back... so i doubt he's too upset about it. it's bumping his thread to the top after all.curious person wrote:keeping_it_riel wrote:Before we go any further, the OP has made a serious post so if you feel he need to respond, keep your replies serious also. No smart ass stuff or trolling, thanks.
b) with enough negativity in here on the subject i felt it could use a little levity. if KIR disagrees he's free to delete it all and go back to people whining,nitpicking, and jumping down the throat of someone trying to be helpful.
Those who begin coercive elimination of dissent soon find themselves exterminating dissenters. Compulsory unification of opinion achieves only the unanimity of the graveyard.
Robert H. Jackson, West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette
Robert H. Jackson, West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette
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Again, I appreciate that someone took the time to go and visit the website and do some research.FreeSocrates! wrote:http://store.slaafws.org/merchant.mvc?S ... e_Code=SOS
It seems to be some type of giant Sex Shame Ponzi Scheme to me...
It quite patently is not a Ponzi scheme. There are no financial rewards involved - other than maybe getting your life back on track and the benefits that can come from that.
With regards to "sex shame" - that sounds like a self-defined term. The problem arises when behaviour gets out of control for a particular person and things start falling apart in their life. What drives that is difficult to measure - one man's poison is another man's nectar.
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While it looks like an obvious, yet weak, attempt at trolling it does raise an interesting question about how to define the problem. Sure, alcoholics have the drink problem fairly neatly defined and the solution seems obvious i.e. don't drink that first drink.vladimir wrote:Does the Kiwi chapter advise mutton abstinence?Pol Pothead wrote:As far as addictions go, it sure beats alcoholism.
For someone suffering from a sexual addiction or sexual behaviour that is out of control the definition of their sobriety can't necessarily be as black and white as there will probably be behaviours in between that need to be addressed as well. No one said it was easy...back to someone who can't stop having affairs or using prostitutes as an example - there's a fair chance their behaviour in terms of the places they frequent or the websites the use to meet partners needs to be changed. Difficult to stop the affairs if you are a member of a dating website, using hook-up apps or hanging out in hostess bars for example.
I originally brought up the connection (or lack of it) with religion to tease out whether this was another Bible bashing crowd from the southern United States. It is clear to me that is not the case with these guys. What they do is not particularly interesting for me but there's obviously a target audience or else they wouldn't be doing it.
Here are there twelve steps:Bosco wrote:I originally brought up the connection (or lack of it) with religion to tease out whether this was another Bible bashing crowd from the southern United States. It is clear to me that is not the case with these guys. What they do is not particularly interesting for me but there's obviously a target audience or else they wouldn't be doing it.
The Twelve Steps of S.L.A.A.*
1. We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction - that our lives had
become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood
God.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our
wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to
them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would
injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with a Power
greater than ourselves, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power
to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this
message to sex and love addicts and to practice these principles in all areas of our
lives.
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Thanks Meo Den. Appreciate that you have also been to the website.
If you take the time to read #3 you'll see that "..as we understood God" is the qualifier which lets individuals choose their own conception of a higher power. The word 'God' thereafter can be anyone's interpretation thereof. It's ridiculous to suggest that this is a Christian God or any other kind of deity - it's saying choose your higher power yourself. The word 'God' is used because it is a useful description for such - people basically understand it means a power greater than themselves, and is a traditional part of all the 12 step wordings.
If you want a more practical rather than traditional 12 Steps try these:
1. We admitted we were not running our lives intelligently, and we had become bankrupt as individuals.
2. We came to believe our lives could be salvaged with the use of greater intelligence.
3.Decided any improved intelligence could do a better job, once we understood what was possible.
4. Took stock of what we knew of successful living.
5. Admitted the possibility of being mistaken.
6. Let go of worthless old ideas.
7. Asked for help to unload belief systems which were no longer useful.
8. Listed people owed, and became willing to set things straight with them.
9. Made things straight and equal when we could, unless it would hurt them or others.
10. Inventoried new ideas, and quickly unloaded mistakes.
11. Studied other belief systems to improve our own.
12. Paid for the help we received by trying to help others.
Basically, whatever works for you.
EDIT: I have to credit some AA book or guide for the above but I am not sure where I got it from as I just have screen shots. Essentially it was saying it doesn't hurt to look at the steps from a perspective that removes the myth and superstition and puts it into a practical context. But the message remains the same - get help if you need it and here is a plan to help you do that.
If you take the time to read #3 you'll see that "..as we understood God" is the qualifier which lets individuals choose their own conception of a higher power. The word 'God' thereafter can be anyone's interpretation thereof. It's ridiculous to suggest that this is a Christian God or any other kind of deity - it's saying choose your higher power yourself. The word 'God' is used because it is a useful description for such - people basically understand it means a power greater than themselves, and is a traditional part of all the 12 step wordings.
If you want a more practical rather than traditional 12 Steps try these:
1. We admitted we were not running our lives intelligently, and we had become bankrupt as individuals.
2. We came to believe our lives could be salvaged with the use of greater intelligence.
3.Decided any improved intelligence could do a better job, once we understood what was possible.
4. Took stock of what we knew of successful living.
5. Admitted the possibility of being mistaken.
6. Let go of worthless old ideas.
7. Asked for help to unload belief systems which were no longer useful.
8. Listed people owed, and became willing to set things straight with them.
9. Made things straight and equal when we could, unless it would hurt them or others.
10. Inventoried new ideas, and quickly unloaded mistakes.
11. Studied other belief systems to improve our own.
12. Paid for the help we received by trying to help others.
Basically, whatever works for you.
EDIT: I have to credit some AA book or guide for the above but I am not sure where I got it from as I just have screen shots. Essentially it was saying it doesn't hurt to look at the steps from a perspective that removes the myth and superstition and puts it into a practical context. But the message remains the same - get help if you need it and here is a plan to help you do that.
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Have to agree with this. To his credit, he's well-prepared for the cracks and the jibes and is meeting it all with good grace. Wonder how many posters have secretly signed up already!Bosco wrote:I originally brought up the connection (or lack of it) with religion to tease out whether this was another Bible bashing crowd from the southern United States. It is clear to me that is not the case with these guys. What they do is not particularly interesting for me but there's obviously a target audience or else they wouldn't be doing it.
I came, I argued, I'm out
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Thanks Andy for the kudos.andyinasia wrote:Have to agree with this. To his credit, he's well-prepared for the cracks and the jibes and is meeting it all with good grace. Wonder how many posters have secretly signed up already!Bosco wrote:I originally brought up the connection (or lack of it) with religion to test out whether this was another Bible bashing crowd from the southern United States. It is clear to me that is not the case with these guys. What they do is not particularly interesting for me but there's obviously a target audience or else they wouldn't be doing it.
Realistically people don't like to admit they have a problem and tend to carry on as they were right up until all the crap collapses around them - only then are they looking for a place to turn to, or become willing to admit they have an issue.
It could happen in theory, but I doubt that anyone reading this would come forward within 24 hours like that after reading this. Generally folks will continue sliding down their particular slippery slope until the SHTF moment.
This posting is not a drive for members - just raising awareness and saying "it's here if you need it".
SLAA/OP
If it's not too intrusive, I'd be interested to know what kind of circumstances led to your getting involved with the group.
If it's not too intrusive, I'd be interested to know what kind of circumstances led to your getting involved with the group.
Why “Sexual Addiction” Is Not A Useful Diagnosis — And Why It Matters. Dr. Marty Klein
If convicted mass murderer Ted Bundy had said that watching Bill Cosby reruns motivated his awful crimes, he would have been dismissed as a deranged sociopath. Instead, Bundy has said his pornography addiction made him do it–which many people treated as the conclusion of a thoughtful social scientist.Why?
There’s a phenomenon emerging in America today that affects everyone, particularly those in the helping professions. Not caring about it, or having no opinion about it, is no longer an option.
I am not interested in trashing 12-step programs. AA performs a great service every year in helping people handle their addiction to alcohol and other drugs. The question that has been put to us is, is the addiction model a good one for diagnosing sexual problems, and is the 12-step model a good one for treating sexual problems?
And if it is, is it as appropriate for treating rapists as it is for people who masturbate more than they think they should?
HOW THE SEXUAL ADDICTION MOVEMENT AFFECTS PROFESSIONALS
People are now self-diagnosing as “sex addicts.”
They’re also diagnosing their partners. Non-sexologist professionals such as ministers and doctors are diagnosing some of their clientele as sex addicts, too. As a result of these trends, many people who should be seeing therapists or sexologists are not. And many who don’t need “treatment” are getting it.
The sexual addiction movement is aggressively training non-sexologists, such as marriage counselors, in the treatment of sexual problems.
Many professionals are now taking these programs instead of those offered by sexologists. Also, some professionals now feel incompetent to treat certain systemic problems without this sexual addiction “training.” It is important to note that the content of this sexual addiction training is sexologically inadequate: there is little or no discussion of systems, physiology, diagnoses, cultural aspects, etc.
The concept of sexual addiction affects the sexual climate of the society in which we work–negatively.
This negativity is reflected in anti-sex education legislation, anti-pornography ordinances, homophobic industry regulations, etc.
Sex addicts now have cachet as sex experts.
Mass murderer Ted Bundy, widely quoted as an expert on the effects of pornography, is only one example. Right-wing crusaders now routinely quote “sex addicts” to justify repressive beliefs and public policy suggestions.
Now read on http://www.martyklein.com/why-sexual-ad ... t-matters/
If convicted mass murderer Ted Bundy had said that watching Bill Cosby reruns motivated his awful crimes, he would have been dismissed as a deranged sociopath. Instead, Bundy has said his pornography addiction made him do it–which many people treated as the conclusion of a thoughtful social scientist.Why?
There’s a phenomenon emerging in America today that affects everyone, particularly those in the helping professions. Not caring about it, or having no opinion about it, is no longer an option.
I am not interested in trashing 12-step programs. AA performs a great service every year in helping people handle their addiction to alcohol and other drugs. The question that has been put to us is, is the addiction model a good one for diagnosing sexual problems, and is the 12-step model a good one for treating sexual problems?
And if it is, is it as appropriate for treating rapists as it is for people who masturbate more than they think they should?
HOW THE SEXUAL ADDICTION MOVEMENT AFFECTS PROFESSIONALS
People are now self-diagnosing as “sex addicts.”
They’re also diagnosing their partners. Non-sexologist professionals such as ministers and doctors are diagnosing some of their clientele as sex addicts, too. As a result of these trends, many people who should be seeing therapists or sexologists are not. And many who don’t need “treatment” are getting it.
The sexual addiction movement is aggressively training non-sexologists, such as marriage counselors, in the treatment of sexual problems.
Many professionals are now taking these programs instead of those offered by sexologists. Also, some professionals now feel incompetent to treat certain systemic problems without this sexual addiction “training.” It is important to note that the content of this sexual addiction training is sexologically inadequate: there is little or no discussion of systems, physiology, diagnoses, cultural aspects, etc.
The concept of sexual addiction affects the sexual climate of the society in which we work–negatively.
This negativity is reflected in anti-sex education legislation, anti-pornography ordinances, homophobic industry regulations, etc.
Sex addicts now have cachet as sex experts.
Mass murderer Ted Bundy, widely quoted as an expert on the effects of pornography, is only one example. Right-wing crusaders now routinely quote “sex addicts” to justify repressive beliefs and public policy suggestions.
Now read on http://www.martyklein.com/why-sexual-ad ... t-matters/
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