Wedding guest etiquette
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I have lost count of the weddings I've attended here over the last several years. Do NOT count on the monetary gifts covering your costs. Some weddings make a profit, some make enough to just cover the costs of the wedding, and some don't even make enough to cover the wedding costs. If you make a profit or just enough to cover the costs then that's great...all I'm saying is don't set yourself or the wife up for disappointment. You say the wife is looking at 500 guests, that doesn't mean you'll get that many turning up or sending money, you could end up with 300 or 800 guests...wedding parties here are nothing like 'Western' weddings where everyone attending RSVP's and non-invitees don't turn up.
I have lost count of the weddings I've attended here over the last several years. Do NOT count on the monetary gifts covering your costs. Some weddings make a profit, some make enough to just cover the costs of the wedding, and some don't even make enough to cover the wedding costs. If you make a profit or just enough to cover the costs then that's great...all I'm saying is don't set yourself or the wife up for disappointment. You say the wife is looking at 500 guests, that doesn't mean you'll get that many turning up or sending money, you could end up with 300 or 800 guests...wedding parties here are nothing like 'Western' weddings where everyone attending RSVP's and non-invitees don't turn up.
I'm not a negative person, I encourage people all the time...it's usually to f**k off! But, whatever.
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When getting married in Cambodia can you do it UK stylie - like a quick run to the registry office (15 minutes tops and your outa there), then straight off to the pub for a massive piss up?
Or is a certain procedure expected to be followed?
Or is a certain procedure expected to be followed?
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Thank-you. You'd think that next to watching the world go by and staring: weddings being the national past-time, people would know how to account for that. "Ay mate, you can factor 13.6% no shows so if you're paying for 500 people, then invite 568 people. Oi"PSD_Kiwi wrote:PorkPiePorn...
I have lost count of the weddings I've attended here over the last several years. Do NOT count on the monetary gifts covering your costs. Some weddings make a profit, some make enough to just cover the costs of the wedding, and some don't even make enough to cover the wedding costs. If you make a profit or just enough to cover the costs then that's great...all I'm saying is don't set yourself or the wife up for disappointment. You say the wife is looking at 500 guests, that doesn't mean you'll get that many turning up or sending money, you could end up with 300 or 800 guests...wedding parties here are nothing like 'Western' weddings where everyone attending RSVP's and non-invitees don't turn up.
Apparently I'm in for about 10K but thats for a lot more things than just the dinner. Dinner maybe 7K, and even if its flush, then I am into that for 3.5 plus another 3, so I am still paying 6.5. Then theres a honeymoon blah blah blah.
I always thought if I was going to get married again I would just take off somewhere and then have a garden party later at home. Then I met a Khmer girl, pffft.
The problem with the world is stupidity. I'm not saying there should be a capital punishment for stupidity, but why don't we just take the safety labels off of everything and let the problem solve itself?
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I vote for that.spitthedog wrote:When getting married in Cambodia can you do it UK stylie - like a quick run to the registry office (15 minutes tops and your outa there), then straight off to the pub for a massive piss up?
Or is a certain procedure expected to be followed?
The problem with the world is stupidity. I'm not saying there should be a capital punishment for stupidity, but why don't we just take the safety labels off of everything and let the problem solve itself?
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Vegas babyPorkPiePorn wrote:I vote for that.spitthedog wrote:When getting married in Cambodia can you do it UK stylie - like a quick run to the registry office (15 minutes tops and your outa there), then straight off to the pub for a massive piss up?
Or is a certain procedure expected to be followed?
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Yeh, good luck though getting a Cambodian girl across the US border now.Jamie_Lambo wrote:Vegas babyPorkPiePorn wrote:I vote for that.spitthedog wrote:When getting married in Cambodia can you do it UK stylie - like a quick run to the registry office (15 minutes tops and your outa there), then straight off to the pub for a massive piss up?
Or is a certain procedure expected to be followed?
The problem with the world is stupidity. I'm not saying there should be a capital punishment for stupidity, but why don't we just take the safety labels off of everything and let the problem solve itself?
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Everything is paid in cash (I carried the loot for the restaurant that night). Maybe one day you can pay by credit/debit card.
You carried $33,000 and thought it was $330,000?Don-Pierre de Plume wrote:Everything is paid in cash (I carried the loot for the restaurant that night).
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LOL. No, just the money that was paid to the restaurant. I might have left the country with $330.000Alexandra wrote:You carried $33,000 and thought it was $330,000?Don-Pierre de Plume wrote:Everything is paid in cash (I carried the loot for the restaurant that night).
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I was getting to that... I was going to paint the picture of you taking off with $330,000 only to realize, after your escape, that you had pretty much ruined your local life over $33,000.Don-Pierre de Plume wrote:I might have left the country with $330.000
It was a funny mental image. Something like below.
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Just as well I didn't do the counting of the takings, or I really would have needed to apologise to GM...
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You carried the payment for the restaurant yet thought that the total wedding costs were $130,000?
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PorkPiePorn wrote: Wait, lets be clear: I can do whatever I want. And no, I have not agreed to anything (with her parents) in as much as made any promises. All we did was discuss it, her and I.
You just said hours ago that you and she didn't just discuss giving half the take to her parents, you "sort of agreed" on it.
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I had said no payment to her family, but then we sort of agreed (her and I) that we would split half the take with her parents.
It sounds to me like you didn't want to give her parents anything, then you reluctantly agreed with your wife to give them half the money, now you are trying to renege on that. What do you think happened when you and she "sort of agreed" that her parents would get half the take? She told her parents they were getting half the take, that's what.
The "not underhanded" way to do it would be to collect all the payments and then tell the parents they're only getting 25%, or that they are only getting a fixed sum. The underhanded way might look something like this:PorkPiePorn wrote: Whatever I do, it wont be underhanded, not like I will sneak around doing it.
PorkPiePorn wrote:I should also make certain that any western friends and family guests/visitors give their envelopes to me or to my best man directly and keep that out of it.
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I don't think they have a best man herePorkPiePorn wrote: I should also make certain that any western friends and family guests/visitors give their envelopes to me or to my best man directly and keep that out of it.
Oh... and you won't be saying the 'I Do' words.
Better let all the guests just hand their envelopes to the persons at table/desk at the back. Don't embarrass your bride.
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