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Hah, I like that. "Network and Nudge Night"GMJS-440 wrote:I have been told the Chambers (of commerce) are essentially holding gatherings so everyone can find fuck-buddies.
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lol you have a lot to learn my friend lolmerchantsmutual wrote:I don't understand how guys do this. I was sure most of the working class girls I was with are assured virgins till their wedding day. I am sure some of them are most assuredly not and some others would be down to engage in sexual activity were I to persist, but surely there is a certain percentage that is incorruptible? Or am I being naïve here?Miguelito wrote:^^^ Both of those replies sum it up. And my point wasn't about the girls here, or there, but the guys. We'll all have different experiences based on our own personalities. The OP doesn't seem super extroverted and with game and willpower to pick up girls. He relied on dating apps and certain preconceived notions. After two weeks, he may have the same feedback on dating as if he had visited Kansas City, Kansas.
Another thing that bothered me is since I came back to the states, I had to cut off two of the girls that I thought were really into me because they seemed to be fishing for money. Though another girl that I met there (who paid for my meal, surprisingly) we are actually getting closer together and she is very cool to talk to every day. But I still see her on the dating site as active on a daily basis . . . I guess if you want a foreign guy, you keep looking till a deal is sealed.
to be sure about anything to do with cambodian girls either before you come, or even after only two weeks here,
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Can you be more specific? So I am being naïve and most of the girls will eventually sleep with me? I suppose that is true, though I would feel bad if the girl went into it with the wrong expectations.Jamie_Lambo wrote:lol you have a lot to learn my friend lolmerchantsmutual wrote:I don't understand how guys do this. I was sure most of the working class girls I was with are assured virgins till their wedding day. I am sure some of them are most assuredly not and some others would be down to engage in sexual activity were I to persist, but surely there is a certain percentage that is incorruptible? Or am I being naïve here?Miguelito wrote:^^^ Both of those replies sum it up. And my point wasn't about the girls here, or there, but the guys. We'll all have different experiences based on our own personalities. The OP doesn't seem super extroverted and with game and willpower to pick up girls. He relied on dating apps and certain preconceived notions. After two weeks, he may have the same feedback on dating as if he had visited Kansas City, Kansas.
Another thing that bothered me is since I came back to the states, I had to cut off two of the girls that I thought were really into me because they seemed to be fishing for money. Though another girl that I met there (who paid for my meal, surprisingly) we are actually getting closer together and she is very cool to talk to every day. But I still see her on the dating site as active on a daily basis . . . I guess if you want a foreign guy, you keep looking till a deal is sealed.
to be sure about anything to do with cambodian girls either before you come, or even after only two weeks here,
Re: money, are many just expecting I will be a provider to some extent?
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Then why were you trying to reach out to that demographic? As previously stated, stick to hookers if you're trying to get laid and here only for two weeks. Don't try to fool anyone because you just end up fooling no one but yourself. Be honest with yourself and to them.merchantsmutual wrote:I don't understand how guys do this. I was sure most of the working class girls I was with are assured virgins till their wedding day.
Yes and no. That percentage is actually much lower than you're being led to believe. However, you need to KNOW them and Cambodians. You may speak the language a bit, but that doesn't mean you know anything about the culture and social mores or how to pick up local lasses. Frankly, it doesn't seem like you have much (if any) game when it comes to the local ladies. That's nothing to be ashamed of and quite unsurprising as it takes a while to know how to play the local field and good places to pick them up. I've seen big changes in the past several years in local women's (and family's) attitudes, so everything is possible. I've slept with virgins and their parents eventually found out. They never killed me (or the girls) when it ended and I'm still friends with one of the families.merchantsmutual wrote:I am sure some of them are most assuredly not and some others would be down to engage in sexual activity were I to persist, but surely there is a certain percentage that is incorruptible? Or am I being naïve here?
What about you? Are you still active on those sites? You must be if you still see them as being active... I was with a girl for two years and was still active on them. Although it stung when she eventually left (first time a girl ever dumped ME), I laugh about it now because I was obviously being such a total tool. My current girl flat out told me at the beginning of our relationship to delete the apps. Against my will (I was kind of addicted to them), I did it, and couldn't be happier. Spent my 20s here sticking my willy into anyone that I could and breaking hearts along the way, but things have changed. My girl knows I'm flirty nature and still like to charm the ladies, but she knows I won't act on it. I can't help joking with the waitress/shop-keeper. It's too easy but it's just harmless fun.merchantsmutual wrote:Another thing that bothered me is since I came back to the states, I had to cut off two of the girls that I thought were really into me because they seemed to be fishing for money. Though another girl that I met there (who paid for my meal, surprisingly) we are actually getting closer together and she is very cool to talk to every day. But I still see her on the dating site as active on a daily basis . . . I guess if you want a foreign guy, you keep looking till a deal is sealed.
I know it sounds like I'm judging you, but I'm not. I'm no saint and this is probably my first "real" relationship, in the sense that I'm 100% committed to her. In the past, I would always put my freedom first so either wouldn't commit, or would always be keeping my options open/looking for a new target while telling myself it was OK because I hadn't "officially" committed by calling them a girlfriend... I'm the pot and you're the kettle. My point is: are you applying double-standards? Why should those girls still not be active? Are you mutually exclusive? After meeting two or three times over the course of two weeks? You must be joking... You're still talking to several of them, why shouldn't they not still be taking to other guys? You can't have it both ways buddy. Be honest with yourself. Also, keep in mind many girls there are just there to make friends with people, not to date, screw around or find a husband.
No "good girl" will sleep with you knowing you're a tourist staying here for two weeks. Fact. Several grey girls will if you play your cards right, and so will hookers. However, as stated above, even the grey girls won't touch you because you don't know how to tickle their fancy. I know some will say flirting is the same everywhere, and to an extent it's true. But I find flirting with a Khmer girls is quite different to flirting with a foreign girl from back home. I have my repertoire of jokes and lines which I've refined over time and used XX times with great success. Many of these lines/jokes would get raised eyebrows or brand me a "weirdo" look back home. From the first date all the way to the first time she accepts to come over, it's a fine science... The same as back home? Definitely not.merchantsmutual wrote:Can you be more specific? So I am being naïve and most of the girls will eventually sleep with me? I suppose that is true, though I would feel bad if the girl went into it with the wrong expectations.
Re: money, are many just expecting I will be a provider to some extent?
Regarding money, none of the girls I ever dated asked for money from me. Well, one girlfriend did, but only in a time of real need and I willingly complied. The grey girls usually just wanted me to pay for their drinks and food in fancy restaurants. I'm a tight-ass by nature, but girls DO want you to spend at least a bit of money on them. That's true anywhere, but if you start paying for a lot of stuff from the beginning, they'll read that you're a pushover and will milk you dry. I can spot a gold-digger or time waster a mile away now.
You don't say what you're after. You make it sound like sex, but then you try to tell us you want a relationship. Cut the shit. Stick to hookers. Simpler for you, no more charades or misleading innocent girls. Even if you use a "non-natural" way to meet girls like a website, you won't be able to get a "nice girl" to sleep with you when on vacation here. If you want a relationship, then don't try to force anything and let it flourish naturally. However, a long-distance relationship is more difficult to make flourish at the beginning than after initial contact has been made and the relationship is established. If you can sustain the spark and interest (and create a relationship) after your initial meetings with one of these girls, then maybe you'll get a chance with the girl next time you come over. Definitely don't send her cash via Western Union though since you don't really know her. That being said, why not try to get a Khmer girl in the US? Sounds like it would be way easier.
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Or why not try Vietnam or China? Friends who have lived there told me it was much easier for them to get girls/girlfriends there. However, the same problem persists: your chances or finding sex with an average girl, a girlfriend or wife are pretty slim when you're there for two weeks. Why would a girl open up her heart (and legs) to some random stranger who's only here for a short period of time? Unless you live/work there, they're unlikely to show much interest in your, whether you speak the language or not. So it's really weird when you repeatedly ask us "But why?!". The answer is rather obvious to everyone but yourself. You need at least a few months and even years before things get easier. You'll always get passed over in preference for someone more stable with deeper roots in the country. A bit of fleeting fun is always possible with certain girls though.
I have to agree. I do think the OP shared interesting ideas, but his stubborn lack of social awareness is weird and as Jamie points out is now bordering on clueless.Metal1982 wrote:this discussion is getting kinda dorky...
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You wouldn't be a real man otherwise. That's why I think an overly-jealous woman is bad news.My girl knows I'm flirty nature and still like to charm the ladies, but she knows I won't act on it. I can't help joking with the waitress/shop-keeper. It's too easy but it's just harmless fun.
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top postLexusSchmexus wrote:Then why were you trying to reach out to that demographic? As previously stated, stick to hookers if you're trying to get laid and here only for two weeks. Don't try to fool anyone because you just end up fooling no one but yourself. Be honest with yourself and to them.merchantsmutual wrote:I don't understand how guys do this. I was sure most of the working class girls I was with are assured virgins till their wedding day.
Yes and no. That percentage is actually much lower than you're being led to believe. However, you need to KNOW them and Cambodians. You may speak the language a bit, but that doesn't mean you know anything about the culture and social mores or how to pick up local lasses. Frankly, it doesn't seem like you have much (if any) game when it comes to the local ladies. That's nothing to be ashamed of and quite unsurprising as it takes a while to know how to play the local field and good places to pick them up. I've seen big changes in the past several years in local women's (and family's) attitudes, so everything is possible. I've slept with virgins and their parents eventually found out. They never killed me (or the girls) when it ended and I'm still friends with one of the families.merchantsmutual wrote:I am sure some of them are most assuredly not and some others would be down to engage in sexual activity were I to persist, but surely there is a certain percentage that is incorruptible? Or am I being naïve here?
What about you? Are you still active on those sites? You must be if you still see them as being active... I was with a girl for two years and was still active on them. Although it stung when she eventually left (first time a girl ever dumped ME), I laugh about it now because I was obviously being such a total tool. My current girl flat out told me at the beginning of our relationship to delete the apps. Against my will (I was kind of addicted to them), I did it, and couldn't be happier. Spent my 20s here sticking my willy into anyone that I could and breaking hearts along the way, but things have changed. My girl knows I'm flirty nature and still like to charm the ladies, but she knows I won't act on it. I can't help joking with the waitress/shop-keeper. It's too easy but it's just harmless fun.merchantsmutual wrote:Another thing that bothered me is since I came back to the states, I had to cut off two of the girls that I thought were really into me because they seemed to be fishing for money. Though another girl that I met there (who paid for my meal, surprisingly) we are actually getting closer together and she is very cool to talk to every day. But I still see her on the dating site as active on a daily basis . . . I guess if you want a foreign guy, you keep looking till a deal is sealed.
I know it sounds like I'm judging you, but I'm not. I'm no saint and this is probably my first "real" relationship, in the sense that I'm 100% committed to her. In the past, I would always put my freedom first so either wouldn't commit, or would always be keeping my options open/looking for a new target while telling myself it was OK because I hadn't "officially" committed by calling them a girlfriend... I'm the pot and you're the kettle. My point is: are you applying double-standards? Why should those girls still not be active? Are you mutually exclusive? After meeting two or three times over the course of two weeks? You must be joking... You're still talking to several of them, why shouldn't they not still be taking to other guys? You can't have it both ways buddy. Be honest with yourself. Also, keep in mind many girls there are just there to make friends with people, not to date, screw around or find a husband.
No "good girl" will sleep with you knowing you're a tourist staying here for two weeks. Fact. Several grey girls will if you play your cards right, and so will hookers. However, as stated above, even the grey girls won't touch you because you don't know how to tickle their fancy. I know some will say flirting is the same everywhere, and to an extent it's true. But I find flirting with a Khmer girls is quite different to flirting with a foreign girl from back home. I have my repertoire of jokes and lines which I've refined over time and used XX times with great success. Many of these lines/jokes would get raised eyebrows or brand me a "weirdo" look back home. From the first date all the way to the first time she accepts to come over, it's a fine science... The same as back home? Definitely not.merchantsmutual wrote:Can you be more specific? So I am being naïve and most of the girls will eventually sleep with me? I suppose that is true, though I would feel bad if the girl went into it with the wrong expectations.
Re: money, are many just expecting I will be a provider to some extent?
Regarding money, none of the girls I ever dated asked for money from me. Well, one girlfriend did, but only in a time of real need and I willingly complied. The grey girls usually just wanted me to pay for their drinks and food in fancy restaurants. I'm a tight-ass by nature, but girls DO want you to spend at least a bit of money on them. That's true anywhere, but if you start paying for a lot of stuff from the beginning, they'll read that you're a pushover and will milk you dry. I can spot a gold-digger or time waster a mile away now.
You don't say what you're after. You make it sound like sex, but then you try to tell us you want a relationship. Cut the shit. Stick to hookers. Simpler for you, no more charades or misleading innocent girls. Even if you use a "non-natural" way to meet girls like a website, you won't be able to get a "nice girl" to sleep with you when on vacation here. If you want a relationship, then don't try to force anything and let it flourish naturally. However, a long-distance relationship is more difficult to make flourish at the beginning than after initial contact has been made and the relationship is established. If you can sustain the spark and interest (and create a relationship) after your initial meetings with one of these girls, then maybe you'll get a chance with the girl next time you come over. Definitely don't send her cash via Western Union though since you don't really know her. That being said, why not try to get a Khmer girl in the US? Sounds like it would be way easier.
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Well that was quite a speech Lexus.
I think -hell, I don't think, I know- it's much easier to get laid by grey and even white girls than you let on, though, but I won't elaborate here. Suffice to say that ultimately you'd better get out of the game before it spoils you to the point that it becomes an end into itself.
It takes a strong one to recognize that in a guy and push you head over heels in the right direction, or at least on a different path, like both our exes seem to have done.
I think -hell, I don't think, I know- it's much easier to get laid by grey and even white girls than you let on, though, but I won't elaborate here. Suffice to say that ultimately you'd better get out of the game before it spoils you to the point that it becomes an end into itself.
It takes a strong one to recognize that in a guy and push you head over heels in the right direction, or at least on a different path, like both our exes seem to have done.
I suppose this will make me a jerk by expat standards, but I honestly feel most of you people should be embarassed with yourselves. Sex is free, never pay for it.
I do wonder if any of the rest of you have been offered money for sex? I was offered $1,000 USD by a lady to spend the night with her. This was in Las Vegas. I told her no. She was quite old, almost 38 years old if I recollect. Could you imagine having sex with a woman over 35? SICK!
Right after I told her no I caught the attention of a couple 19 year old hotties. Eventually I got a room with the peruvian one, best night ever. No joke, I had an AIDS test soon after since I did not know any better. She ripped the condom off mid-fuck and I was convinced a week later I had HIV. But I did pass the test and do not have AIDS.
Whilst i think I am awesome since I was offered money a few times for sex, i am now a fat fuck. I still have no issue getting laid so I wonder what the fuck is wrong with you people?
I do wonder if any of the rest of you have been offered money for sex? I was offered $1,000 USD by a lady to spend the night with her. This was in Las Vegas. I told her no. She was quite old, almost 38 years old if I recollect. Could you imagine having sex with a woman over 35? SICK!
Right after I told her no I caught the attention of a couple 19 year old hotties. Eventually I got a room with the peruvian one, best night ever. No joke, I had an AIDS test soon after since I did not know any better. She ripped the condom off mid-fuck and I was convinced a week later I had HIV. But I did pass the test and do not have AIDS.
Whilst i think I am awesome since I was offered money a few times for sex, i am now a fat fuck. I still have no issue getting laid so I wonder what the fuck is wrong with you people?
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GMJS-440 wrote:I suppose this will make me a jerk by expat standards, but I honestly feel most of you people should be embarassed with yourselves. Sex is free, never pay for it.
I do wonder if any of the rest of you have been offered money for sex? I was offered $1,000 USD by a lady to spend the night with her. This was in Las Vegas. I told her no. She was quite old, almost 38 years old if I recollect. Could you imagine having sex with a woman over 35? SICK!
Right after I told her no I caught the attention of a couple 19 year old hotties. Eventually I got a room with the peruvian one, best night ever. No joke, I had an AIDS test soon after since I did not know any better. She ripped the condom off mid-fuck and I was convinced a week later I had HIV. But I did pass the test and do not have AIDS.
Whilst i think I am awesome since I was offered money a few times for sex, i am now a fat fuck. I still have no issue getting laid so I wonder what the fuck is wrong with you people?
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I am however feeling good about my decision to double down on the Gatorade before going to sleep.
I am however feeling good about my decision to double down on the Gatorade before going to sleep.
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Now that is a hell of a fantasyGMJS-440 wrote:I suppose this will make me a jerk by expat standards, but I honestly feel most of you people should be embarassed with yourselves. Sex is free, never pay for it.
I do wonder if any of the rest of you have been offered money for sex? I was offered $1,000 USD by a lady to spend the night with her. This was in Las Vegas. I told her no. She was quite old, almost 38 years old if I recollect. Could you imagine having sex with a woman over 35? SICK!
Right after I told her no I caught the attention of a couple 19 year old hotties. Eventually I got a room with the peruvian one, best night ever. No joke, I had an AIDS test soon after since I did not know any better. She ripped the condom off mid-fuck and I was convinced a week later I had HIV. But I did pass the test and do not have AIDS.
Whilst i think I am awesome since I was offered money a few times for sex, i am now a fat fuck. I still have no issue getting laid so I wonder what the fuck is wrong with you people?
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