Young and in Love. But is it enough?
Young and in Love. But is it enough?
Dear fellow expats,
I'm looking for advice/solutions for a problem I just realized I will face. My girlfriend, 25, and I, 31, are in love with each other. In fact I have been looking at rings so that I can propose to her soon, of which I am sure she will say yes, although the wedding would not be until we have both finished Grad School, 1-2 years. I am an American, and she is Khmer, and we are both professional English teachers, eager to stay here in Phnom Penh.
My concern is that my salary as an English Teacher here in Cambodia is not enough to meet the minimum monthly salary of $2550.00, also Since I am young I do not have enough resources saved up, as say some of my other fellow expats who have come here to retire. Also I have been teaching abroad for 4 years now, and have never made that much money a month.
Has anyone come across, or have experienced, a solution or alternative to this matter?
I appreciate any assistance you may have on this mater.
I'm looking for advice/solutions for a problem I just realized I will face. My girlfriend, 25, and I, 31, are in love with each other. In fact I have been looking at rings so that I can propose to her soon, of which I am sure she will say yes, although the wedding would not be until we have both finished Grad School, 1-2 years. I am an American, and she is Khmer, and we are both professional English teachers, eager to stay here in Phnom Penh.
My concern is that my salary as an English Teacher here in Cambodia is not enough to meet the minimum monthly salary of $2550.00, also Since I am young I do not have enough resources saved up, as say some of my other fellow expats who have come here to retire. Also I have been teaching abroad for 4 years now, and have never made that much money a month.
Has anyone come across, or have experienced, a solution or alternative to this matter?
I appreciate any assistance you may have on this mater.
I'm not sure what you're talking about here jaz. What do you mean your salary in Cambodia isnt enough to meet the minimum monthly salary of $2550?jaz9339 wrote:
My concern is that my salary as an English Teacher here in Cambodia is not enough to meet the minimum monthly salary of $2550.00, also Since I am young I do not have enough resources saved up, as say some of my other fellow expats who have come here to retire. Also I have been teaching abroad for 4 years now, and have never made that much money a month.
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The minimum monthly salary for what?
There is no minimum monthly salary for someone of your age to get married - or have I got that wrong? PSD Kiwi would know. I think one applies to older expats over 50, but not for a guy your age.
Christ . . Cambodia is replete with expats earning a few hundred bucks a month, married and - so they say - living the good life.
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I have always thought its over 50 and you cant get hitched legally and under 50 you need to be able to show $2500 salary to get legally married. I just assumed it wasn't really enforced. Or maybe thats all bullshit.scobienz wrote:I'm not sure what you're talking about here jaz. What do you mean your salary in Cambodia isnt enough to meet the minimum monthly salary of $2550?jaz9339 wrote:
My concern is that my salary as an English Teacher here in Cambodia is not enough to meet the minimum monthly salary of $2550.00, also Since I am young I do not have enough resources saved up, as say some of my other fellow expats who have come here to retire. Also I have been teaching abroad for 4 years now, and have never made that much money a month.
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The minimum monthly salary for what?
There is no minimum monthly salary for someone of your age to get married - or have I got that wrong? PSD Kiwi would know. I think one applies to older expats over 50, but not for a guy your age.
Christ . . Cambodia is replete with expats earning a few hundred bucks a month, married and - so they say - living the good life.
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http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-pacific-12802339
Cambodia has imposed a partial ban on foreign men marrying local women - would-be bridegrooms will now have to be less than 50 years old.
The government says it is trying to prevent exploitation - and promote true love and what it calls "honest marriages".
But there has been a mixed reaction to the ruling. The ban does not affect foreign women - or Cambodian men.
Some participants in mixed marriages have said the ban is discriminatory.
A traditional Cambodian wedding is hard to miss - there's usually a red and white marquee blocking off half the road in front of the bride's house, and loudspeakers blasting out anything from Khmer wedding music to the chants of Buddhist monks.
At the entrance to the marquee there will be a photo of the bride and groom. Occasionally one or other of them will be non-Cambodian - a situation that has become a little problematic.
"We've been married 10 years, we have children, we're doing very well," said Jim Gollogly, a British doctor who married his wife when he was in his 50s and she was in her 30s.
"I don't think she wants to get rid of me right at the moment. I think she's done well out of it and I've done well out of it. And I don't see why that should be banned."
Dr Gollogly's wife holds a passport from Thailand - so they would not have been affected by the new rules. But others will not be so fortunate.
"They probably think there are too many older guys coming along and picking up young Khmer girls," said Dr Gollogly.
"And they feel that it's a bit immoral or something. But the girls should be of legal, consenting age - and if they are of consenting age, 18 or above, they should be able to make their own decisions."
Discriminatory?
The authorities seem to have been motivated by aesthetic considerations as much as anything else.
A government spokesman said it did not look "fitting" to see a young Cambodian woman with a much older foreign man.
They have also ruled that younger foreign men must have an income of at least $2,500 (£1,539) a month to marry a local bride.
That is many times more than what the average Cambodian earns.
"It seems to me that if there's any law about anything it should be applied to everyone - not just foreigners," said Dr Gollogly.
"It seems there's a good Asian tradition that older guys marry younger girls - and I don't see why that should be a problem just for foreign men," he said.
But perhaps true love need not be thwarted.
There is no law against couples of any age or nationality getting married outside Cambodia.
They may just have to do without the traditional Khmer wedding they had been planning.
just can't get married in Cambodia if you're a foreign male over 50 I think. The extra requirements are for all foreigners, but I'm sure there are ways around those.scoobs wrote:I think one applies to older expats over 50, but not for a guy your age.
Nope, you
logos wrote:just can't get married in Cambodia if you're a foreign male over 50 I think. The extra requirements are for all foreigners, but I'm sure there are ways around those.scoobs wrote:I think one applies to older expats over 50, but not for a guy your age.
Nope, you
There are, unfortunately, many ways around it.
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I don't think we can adequately advise on this matter without seeing a photo or two of what's on the table.
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Lucky Seven wrote:Double post. .
i had to google ....
In Australian politics, a Dorothy Dixer is a rehearsed or planted question asked of a government Minister by a backbencher of their own political party during Parliamentary Question Time.[1]
The term can be used in a mildly derogatory sense, but in common usage today is simply pre-arranged questions from a friendly audience member. Often, the question has been written by the Minister or their staff rather than by the questioner, and is used to give the Minister a chance to promote themselves or the work of the Government, or to criticise the opposition party's policies, to raise the profile of the backbench Member asking the question, or to consume the time available for questioning and thereby avoid tougher questions. It is a common and widely accepted tactic during Question Time in the House of Representatives and the Senate.
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For a Foreign male to legally marry a Cambodian (female) citizen in Cambodia, they must be under 50 yrs of age and have a monthly income of USD$2500.kansaicanuck wrote:I have always thought its over 50 and you cant get hitched legally and under 50 you need to be able to show $2500 salary to get legally married. I just assumed it wasn't really enforced. Or maybe thats all bullshit.scobienz wrote:I'm not sure what you're talking about here jaz. What do you mean your salary in Cambodia isnt enough to meet the minimum monthly salary of $2550?jaz9339 wrote:
My concern is that my salary as an English Teacher here in Cambodia is not enough to meet the minimum monthly salary of $2550.00, also Since I am young I do not have enough resources saved up, as say some of my other fellow expats who have come here to retire. Also I have been teaching abroad for 4 years now, and have never made that much money a month.
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The minimum monthly salary for what?
There is no minimum monthly salary for someone of your age to get married - or have I got that wrong? PSD Kiwi would know. I think one applies to older expats over 50, but not for a guy your age.
Christ . . Cambodia is replete with expats earning a few hundred bucks a month, married and - so they say - living the good life.
Way around the income issue... Have your employer write an official letter stating that you earn that amount, or create one yourself ...the MoFAIC and MoI do not actually check, they just want to see an official looking signed letter from an employer (or other proof, tax returns, bank statements, etc).
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I'm not a negative person, I encourage people all the time...it's usually to f**k off! But, whatever.
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Google "Dear Dorithy Dix" it's more of a bullshit gossip column. Don't be mistaken I love gossip as long as it's true .violet wrote:Lucky Seven wrote:Double post. .
i had to google ....
In Australian politics, a Dorothy Dixer is a rehearsed or planted question asked of a government Minister by a backbencher of their own political party during Parliamentary Question Time.[1]
The term can be used in a mildly derogatory sense, but in common usage today is simply pre-arranged questions from a friendly audience member. Often, the question has been written by the Minister or their staff rather than by the questioner, and is used to give the Minister a chance to promote themselves or the work of the Government, or to criticise the opposition party's policies, to raise the profile of the backbench Member asking the question, or to consume the time available for questioning and thereby avoid tougher questions. It is a common and widely accepted tactic during Question Time in the House of Representatives and the Senate.
"Professional" English teachers? You think you're better than the rest of us?jaz9339 wrote:I am an American, and she is Khmer, and we are both professional English teachers, eager to stay here in Phnom Penh.
It is my impression from people in my gf's family that many Cambodian couples are not formally married but are considered married if they live together, especially if they have children. And that this is casually accepted by their families. Is this correct. Might this be a solution to OP's prob?
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