I don't think so, just don't make too many assumptions and clear stuff up when things get serious, because OP and his fiancee are from different worlds.Alexandra wrote:I think what people are trying to say is... run. Run as fast as you can. Don't look back.
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To the poster that asked if it was he or she I was marrying, I am marrying a she, I meant he as in the brides father has agreed to not have a dowry or bride price rather
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If this is what you feel, it probably is the case. Gut instinct is right more often than not.I feel like I'm getting the wool pulled over my eyes.
It's Cambodia, it probably is the case.I feel like I'm getting the wool pulled over my eyes.
Thanks everyone, I just didn't think realistically 22k usd was an accurate number. As I can get married here in Canada for the same price, but I'm still learning about customs and traditions of the Khmer people. I think that 10-15k is a more realistic. Hopefully we can come to an agreement.
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Are you sure you want to marry a woman whom you suspect of trying to pull the wool over your eyes?CodyN wrote:No we have agreed to no dowry, but he is guesstimating that the wedding will cost around 22k and I feel like I'm getting the wool pulled over my eyes.
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[quote="CodyN" My friend got married there 5 years ago ...[/quote]
You've never been to Cambodia, have you?
You've never been to Cambodia, have you?
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Londo wrote:You've never been to Cambodia, have you?My friend got married there 5 years ago ...
Why would you say that? It's unlikely his fiancee has been to Canada, and I will assume they have met before, so isn't it likely he's been to Cambodia?
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He said he had a friend that got married "there" (in Cambodia) suggesting he isn't in Cambodia himself and I believe never has been. People who use "there" in this context generally haven't actually been to the place they are referring to, in my experience. That added to his seemingly limited understanding of wedding costs, uncertainty or nervousness whether he's being skinned, and the general feel of his posts says to me he is either Vlad kicking a can down down the street or some schmuck with his first premium membership to Asian Dating who fell in love way too soon and is about to make a big mistake after a few emails and a skype wank.gavinmac wrote:Londo wrote:You've never been to Cambodia, have you?My friend got married there 5 years ago ...
Why would you say that? It's unlikely his fiancee has been to Canada, and I will assume they have met before, so isn't it likely he's been to Cambodia?
Op just seems/feels off to me.
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I completely agree with Spigzy's comments above. It is imperative that you really like Cambodia, Khmer culture....and especially her family, because that is what you are marrying into. If your spidey senses are feeling her family might me after you for money.....run like hell.
If her family is great (as my in laws are)....I would tell her and them that you have 10k to get married. You give that to them, they put up whatever money they want...and they keep the envelope money. This will work even if they have little money, as most wedding services can be paid after the service.
My other advice is to resist trying to control anything to do with the wedding....as it is more trouble than it is worth. Let her and her family have that day and do as you are told. At the end of the day, you are essentially a device to allow your bride and her family to show big face.
I was married in 2008. I paid 3k, and I am guessing my wife's family kicked in 3-5k. We had a countryside wedding with 300-400 people, live music, 1.5 day wedding. My wife's family kept the money in the envelopes to recover their costs....and everyone was, and still is...happy.
From my personal experience, I would say the odds of a happy marriage are slightly stacked against you...as it seems that a bit more than half of my friend's marriages don't work out...or are not happy. However, in my case it was far and away the best decision I have ever made.
Best of luck.
If her family is great (as my in laws are)....I would tell her and them that you have 10k to get married. You give that to them, they put up whatever money they want...and they keep the envelope money. This will work even if they have little money, as most wedding services can be paid after the service.
My other advice is to resist trying to control anything to do with the wedding....as it is more trouble than it is worth. Let her and her family have that day and do as you are told. At the end of the day, you are essentially a device to allow your bride and her family to show big face.
I was married in 2008. I paid 3k, and I am guessing my wife's family kicked in 3-5k. We had a countryside wedding with 300-400 people, live music, 1.5 day wedding. My wife's family kept the money in the envelopes to recover their costs....and everyone was, and still is...happy.
From my personal experience, I would say the odds of a happy marriage are slightly stacked against you...as it seems that a bit more than half of my friend's marriages don't work out...or are not happy. However, in my case it was far and away the best decision I have ever made.
Best of luck.
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I'm not sure what your issue is, but I have been to Cambodia numerous times, I have spent three months this year alone with with my fiancé, as I have to work and pay bills in Canada. And my friend I am referring to is a Cambodian who lives in Canada who has his wife there (in Cambodia. And I use there because I'm typing this from my home in Canada.) If you would like I could photocopy my passport and send the photos of my visas that I have received over the years. i understand everything about face and the way traditions and elders are respected, but if I'm forking out 29k Canadian on a wedding I want to make damn sure I'm not getting screwed over, maybe that's because I'm independent and don't rely on my parents or anyone else's to make my every choice, so before I talked to my fiancés father about solid wedding plans. I just wanted to ensure that I'm not out to lunch, he hasn't demanded any amount of money and no formal discussion on the topic has been made, so no I don't feel as though I am being skinned. But every person should have a backup plan and not be naive as to how some people view barangs/foreigners and their money. (I'm not referring to solely her parents, but vendors, at markets, the cost always goes up because I'm white)Londo wrote:He said he had a friend that got married "there" (in Cambodia) suggesting he isn't in Cambodia himself and I believe never has been. People who use "there" in this context generally haven't actually been to the place they are referring to, in my experience. That added to his seemingly limited understanding of wedding costs, uncertainty or nervousness whether he's being skinned, and the general feel of his posts says to me he is either Vlad kicking a can down down the street or some schmuck with his first premium membership to Asian Dating who fell in love way too soon and is about to make a big mistake after a few emails and a skype wank.gavinmac wrote:Londo wrote:You've never been to Cambodia, have you?My friend got married there 5 years ago ...
Why would you say that? It's unlikely his fiancee has been to Canada, and I will assume they have met before, so isn't it likely he's been to Cambodia?
Op just seems/feels off to me.
Thanks again
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