Does Khmer girl ever say no to marriage proposal?

[newkidontheblock]

Much has been said of Khmer girls (of all shades) marrying for economic survival, etc.,
foreign guy nicer than local Khmer, etc., and other reasons in Cambodia.

I was wondering if anyone has heard of a Khmer girl who said no to foreigner guy marriage proposal
(not internet mail order bride), girl and guy together for a while, etc, before question
asked?

And if so, why? Did girl not truly love the guy? Or is it that she found a richer
guy (Khmer or foreigner) to latch on to?

Just curious as to how things work in Cambodia.

[andyinasia]

Yes, I know of a few. The main reasons were either he didn't want to start a family, or he didn't want to support her family.

[KL&fool]

Even if you do get answers to your above queries, it still won't give much insight into 'how things work in Cambodia'.

[Bitteeinbit]

NewKid, you really have to go step by step if you want a Cambodian girl to marry you. There are generally several steps to be taken before she'll accept a marriage proposal.
Step one: You need to tell her that you guys can have lots of fun.
Step two: She must know that there is so much you guys can do.
Step three: Tell her "It's just you and and me".
Step four: Tell her you can give her more than anyone else.
Step five: Tell her the time has arrived for her to marry you.

So NewKid, if her smile drives you wild and she's always on your mind, just go step by step and you're going to get her, she'll be yours I promise. Maybe at first she won't be able to see that you want her all for you, but eventually she'll crack and understand that you're the one who really wants her in his world.


Before anyone gets on my case, I had to google the "info".

[Juan King]

Tell her you have money troubles and can she lend you $100. That could narrow your search for a good wife considerably!

[andyinasia]

Tell her you have money troubles and can she lend you $100. That could narrow your search for a good wife considerably!

Actually that's exactly what I used to do. I had two lines: I have no money (therefore I couldn't support the girl's family), and I'm committed to staying in Cambodia (no escape to land of milk and honey). Worked perfectly - it sifted out some nice girls with latent gold-digging tendencies, and brought me a genuinely non-greedy wife.

[Bitteeinbit]

But you lost out on a lot of potentially interesting drama!

[Lucky Lucan]

Much has been said of Khmer girls (of all shades) marrying for economic survival, etc.,
foreign guy nicer than local Khmer, etc., and other reasons in Cambodia.

I was wondering if anyone has heard of a Khmer girl who said no to foreigner guy marriage proposal
(not internet mail order bride), girl and guy together for a while, etc, before question
asked?

And if so, why? Did girl not truly love the guy? Or is it that she found a richer
guy (Khmer or foreigner) to latch on to?

Just curious as to how things work in Cambodia.

Yeah, I know tons of guys who were turned down by their internet mail order brides so the scheming women could latch onto tycoons. I just don't know where to start.

[Gary Gilmour's Eyes]

A spaced out salesman friend of mine once fast talked an Angeles City bargirl out of her virginity with extravagent marriage promises. He then went with her to her home village in Mindanao and moved in with the family. He paid nothing for food and board and even borrowed money from them. He returned to Australia after 6 months and broke all promises to repay the debt or support the lady.
When he returned to the Philippines a year later, he was outraged to find his fiance had returned to work in Angeles. He was outraged and felt betrayed. Denis had a very tenuous grip on reality.

[vladimir]

Just curious as to how things work in Cambodia.

Things don't work.

[cambod]

Good info. I should start logging into citicards.com and showing them my balance when the subject of marriage comes up.

And for a serious answer to the OP...

I would guess another reason Khmer women might turn down a marriage proposal even if they DID like u is if their parents didn't like u. Game over.

[andyinasia]

Good info. I should start logging into citicards.com and showing them my balance when the subject of marriage comes up.

And for a serious answer to the OP...

I would guess another reason Khmer women might turn down a marriage proposal even if they DID like u is if their parents didn't like u. Game over.

You'd think. I don't recall a single example of that in my years here. I wonder if that's because the vast majority of girls who get fiance-ed up by barang are 'broken' in their conservative families' eyes by the time marriage proposals come up.

[andyinasia]

But you lost out on a lot of potentially interesting drama!

Um, absolutely not

These days my life is thankfully drama free, but I still get it vicariously via the daily gold-digger gossip reports from my wife.

[cambod]

Good info. I should start logging into citicards.com and showing them my balance when the subject of marriage comes up.

And for a serious answer to the OP...

I would guess another reason Khmer women might turn down a marriage proposal even if they DID like u is if their parents didn't like u. Game over.

You'd think. I don't recall a single example of that in my years here. I wonder if that's because the vast majority of girls who get fiance-ed up by barang are 'broken' in their conservative families' eyes by the time marriage proposals come up.

Ah, a very valid point.

[ali baba]

My gf broke up with her Aussie fiance several months before I met her. He was incredible jealous although well liked by the family.