What are my obligations?
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What are my obligations?
Question for the board.
My missus' dad remarried. Mom died, and he has since moved out of the family house and in with his new wife. No wedding ceremony or anything. The new wife is a divorcee with a few kids. Now she has another kid (with the dad). Dad can no longer support this new family and needs my missus, brothers, and sisters support every month to make ends meet. What is the extent of family obligations. Just give enough for support? Or is the family obligated to provide him house and buffalo if he asks?
Serious answers, please!
Thanks and god bless.
My missus' dad remarried. Mom died, and he has since moved out of the family house and in with his new wife. No wedding ceremony or anything. The new wife is a divorcee with a few kids. Now she has another kid (with the dad). Dad can no longer support this new family and needs my missus, brothers, and sisters support every month to make ends meet. What is the extent of family obligations. Just give enough for support? Or is the family obligated to provide him house and buffalo if he asks?
Serious answers, please!
Thanks and god bless.
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I think your missus will be the best judge of that, go along with what she thinks. If you think your missus is taking the piss and doesn't also have your best interests at heart, then find a new missus.
Also you used the term missus not wife. If you aren't married and they want to play the Khmer rule book then you can say it's not your responsibility because you're not married. Then if she starts banging on about getting married say you can't do it because you feel her and her family don't respect you.
Haha, tis behaviour change therapy.
Also you used the term missus not wife. If you aren't married and they want to play the Khmer rule book then you can say it's not your responsibility because you're not married. Then if she starts banging on about getting married say you can't do it because you feel her and her family don't respect you.
Haha, tis behaviour change therapy.
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i would not over think the situation and take it as it unfolds.i think if you have the ability to help than ok help if you feel you should,its up to you.
i always like to give something that i know will help in the long term,ie my girlfriends parents home was damaged badly in a storm,they had lots of help but no funds so i supplied the building materials and together with my staff we helped build a new home,also put in a small shop under the home and now they have an income from the sale of small goods.
another staff members parents,where dirt poor without a job so i brought him a small fishing boat so now he is able to support his family.
maybe i would be thinking in your case,what can be done to let them achieve a modest income without the hand out mentality.it does not cost much sometimes,we also charge up batteries on the lake for some local villages doing it tough,our solar panels on the Queen tara can charge up 10 extra batteries a day,not a big deal but this saves a few families a few dollars a week,if they live in the villages without power and you can afford this,than maybe a solar powered battery charging station at the parents home,they will achieve a small but constant income and feel lots better about them selves.
i always like to give something that i know will help in the long term,ie my girlfriends parents home was damaged badly in a storm,they had lots of help but no funds so i supplied the building materials and together with my staff we helped build a new home,also put in a small shop under the home and now they have an income from the sale of small goods.
another staff members parents,where dirt poor without a job so i brought him a small fishing boat so now he is able to support his family.
maybe i would be thinking in your case,what can be done to let them achieve a modest income without the hand out mentality.it does not cost much sometimes,we also charge up batteries on the lake for some local villages doing it tough,our solar panels on the Queen tara can charge up 10 extra batteries a day,not a big deal but this saves a few families a few dollars a week,if they live in the villages without power and you can afford this,than maybe a solar powered battery charging station at the parents home,they will achieve a small but constant income and feel lots better about them selves.
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I know Cambodians believe it's very important to support their parents. I have no idea if that extends to supporting a parent's new spouse and stepkids and newborn. That sounds like a raw deal to me.
Are you being asked for money here or only your girlfriend?
At least he stopped calling her "birdie."
Are you being asked for money here or only your girlfriend?
At least he stopped calling her "birdie."
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Do father-in-law and his new partner and any older kids have jobs? If no, then there's a fairly obvious solution to their financial predicament.
TheGrimReaper wrote: ↑Mon Sep 02, 2019 1:45 pmSlavedog, you do not belong on this forum as you talk too much sense.
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ricecakes wrote:Put the foot down NOW or forever be raped in the arse.
Oh, please. You support more in laws and concussed daredevil freshie boys than anyone.
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Short answer, you don't have any legal obligations.
Morally, maybe you want to help out your missus out of love for her.
That's entirely up to you whether you want to help her with drips as needed or you're fine with being the extended family's cash cow.
Morally, maybe you want to help out your missus out of love for her.
That's entirely up to you whether you want to help her with drips as needed or you're fine with being the extended family's cash cow.
gavinmac wrote:ricecakes wrote:Put the foot down NOW or forever be raped in the arse.
Oh, please. You support more in laws and concussed daredevil freshie boys than anyone.
Oh look....more arse mumble from the Mac.
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thank everyone for the advice.
father-in-law is the village photographer. the girl he married is around my missus' age. all her kids are little, with of course with the new baby (from the father-in-law). he doesn't work like a man in his 20s, so not as much income. my missus is definitely not a bird! birdies just look pretty, but easily fly away. but she's very kind and wants to help everyone out. i've talked her out of buying a house for her younger sister (who got divorced), buying land, buying father-in-law a new camera (the nikon D7 or D10 or something - costs as much as a small car), adopting all her younger sister's kids, buying a house for her and her youngest sister to live. overall, she really does have my best interests in her heart.
father-in-law is the village photographer. the girl he married is around my missus' age. all her kids are little, with of course with the new baby (from the father-in-law). he doesn't work like a man in his 20s, so not as much income. my missus is definitely not a bird! birdies just look pretty, but easily fly away. but she's very kind and wants to help everyone out. i've talked her out of buying a house for her younger sister (who got divorced), buying land, buying father-in-law a new camera (the nikon D7 or D10 or something - costs as much as a small car), adopting all her younger sister's kids, buying a house for her and her youngest sister to live. overall, she really does have my best interests in her heart.
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I'm having trouble seeing how it's in your best interests for you or your girlfriend to buy all sorts of shit for your girlfriend's family.
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Did your Cambodian girlfriend teach you how to speak English?newkidontheblock wrote:thank everyone for the advice.
Especially when he says he talked her out of buying all those?gavinmac wrote:I'm having trouble seeing how it's in your best interests for you or your girlfriend to buy all sorts of shit for your girlfriend's family.