Why Does My Cambodian Chick Call So Often And At Strange Hours?May 18, 2009
After I returned to the U.S. from my last visit to Phnom Penh , I called my new Cambodian quasi-girlfriend for a friendly chat. I mentioned that if she ever wanted to talk to me, she was free to call my cell phone in the U.S., hang up after a few rings, and I would call her back. That way it wouldn’t cost her anything. This was a mistake.
She has taken this as an invitation to call me daily. I’m not enough of a conversationalist to have daily conversations with anyone. So we tend to have repeat, awkward conversations, that usually go something like this:
Me: “It’s nice to hear from you. Again. So what did you do today?”
Her: “Nothing. Go market. Stay home. What you do?”
Me: “I went to work.”
Her: “You eat already?”
Me: “Yes, I just had a slice of watermelon and a half a sleeve of Fig Newtons.”
Her: “Fig what?”
Me: “Forget it. What are you wearing?”
Her: “Shirt, pants.”
Me: “What kind of shirt?”
Her: “Blue shirt.”
Me: “That’s hot.”
At this point in the conversation, she normally goes into a ten minute “drum solo” of a semi-intelligible monologue about her feelings, family problems, phantom health difficulties, etc. I usually take this opportunity to finish off the rest of the Fig Newtons. Then we wrap up the conversation, to be continued in “Groundhog Day” fashion tomorrow.
To make matters more difficult, she has recently started calling at odd hours. I’ve tried to explain the time difference, and I think she gets it, as she usually calls at the same reasonable hour every day (late morning in Cambodia/ early evening in the U.S.). But lately she has also started calling me very late at night or very early in the morning, for no real reason.
Does she genuinely miss me and long to hear my mellifluous voice?
Is she bored out of her mind, as she can’t afford to go out and have fun if I’m not around?
Is she trying to check if she can hear a woman when I answer my phone at 2 a.m?
Has anyone else experienced this phenomenon? I would appreciate any pointers on dealing with it.