by Zenny » Fri Jul 25, 2014 11:52 am
Joon wrote:Seriously, OP, if you're really looking for your dream girl to marry, I'd advise you, if you can afford it, to take a few months to live and work in Cambodia. You won't find her through matchmaking, unless through a very lucky, exceptional turn of events. IMO, you have higher chances of "meeting" the right gal for you through the social network you'd build through co-workers, friends, friends of friends, and whatnot.
Also, Battambang, Banteay Meanchy, Pursat come out of as good provinces to start looking for the Cambodian girl you'd like.
Wow - It has been quite some time, since I last posted. Had a few disappointments, but it was a good experience nonetheless.
Went to Cambodia for New Years, and had a great time in small village life with constant drinking, food, and laughs. Went through about 10 "introductions" during that time, but none that I was really interested in. The setup of some of these introductions are quite interesting. For example, one time my Aunt just took us to a family she knew and visited as a guest; she first asked their mother if we can "see" her daughter. Often times the daughter is not aware they're a prospect or evaluated, and if we are not interested we just leave and the family/girl saves face. In my case, it is still likely obvious as I don't look like a native Cambodian, so the motive is apparent.
I'm very lucky to have some family there, as it definitely adds credibility. There's so many rumors of Koreans or Chinese falsifying marriages to bring girls back home, and eventually mistreating them that most respectable families here are very cautious about trusting you to their daughter.
I've also got declined by a family who only had 1 daughter. She was quite the looker and while the family were not rich, but they lived very comfortably. Because she was the only daughter they wanted someone to be able to take care of them when they get older, so having their daughter going abroad was out of the question. Either that or it was their nice way of saying no.
In the end, I came back home without anybody. In the next few months I had a few more introductions and still none that I was interested in - mostly I was just not attracted to them or something about their harsh and brash village farmer personality. Just some time ago, got another introduction to the sweetest girl ever; soft spoken voice with a great personality who seem almost exactly the criterias I was looking for; she is quite cute too.
We've talked for a few months and everything seems to be clicking, so heading back to Cambodian in a few months to meet in person and likely go through an "engagement" ceremony to be married at a later time; this is to announce shes "off the market". Lol. Anyway, I'm quite optimistic things will work out and hope I don't jinx myself. Shes definitely quite the catch.
Why post now? Just wanted to share some of my experiences for those that might be in the same boat or are taking this path, even with all the doubting members of this forum.
[quote="Joon"]Seriously, OP, if you're really looking for your dream girl to marry, I'd advise you, if you can afford it, to take a few months to live and work in Cambodia. You won't find her through matchmaking, unless through a very lucky, exceptional turn of events. IMO, you have higher chances of "meeting" the right gal for you through the social network you'd build through co-workers, friends, friends of friends, and whatnot.
Also, Battambang, Banteay Meanchy, Pursat come out of as good provinces to start looking for the Cambodian girl you'd like.[/quote]
Wow - It has been quite some time, since I last posted. Had a few disappointments, but it was a good experience nonetheless.
Went to Cambodia for New Years, and had a great time in small village life with constant drinking, food, and laughs. Went through about 10 "introductions" during that time, but none that I was really interested in. The setup of some of these introductions are quite interesting. For example, one time my Aunt just took us to a family she knew and visited as a guest; she first asked their mother if we can "see" her daughter. Often times the daughter is not aware they're a prospect or evaluated, and if we are not interested we just leave and the family/girl saves face. In my case, it is still likely obvious as I don't look like a native Cambodian, so the motive is apparent.
I'm very lucky to have some family there, as it definitely adds credibility. There's so many rumors of Koreans or Chinese falsifying marriages to bring girls back home, and eventually mistreating them that most respectable families here are very cautious about trusting you to their daughter.
I've also got declined by a family who only had 1 daughter. She was quite the looker and while the family were not rich, but they lived very comfortably. Because she was the only daughter they wanted someone to be able to take care of them when they get older, so having their daughter going abroad was out of the question. Either that or it was their nice way of saying no.
In the end, I came back home without anybody. In the next few months I had a few more introductions and still none that I was interested in - mostly I was just not attracted to them or something about their harsh and brash village farmer personality. Just some time ago, got another introduction to the sweetest girl ever; soft spoken voice with a great personality who seem almost exactly the criterias I was looking for; she is quite cute too.
We've talked for a few months and everything seems to be clicking, so heading back to Cambodian in a few months to meet in person and likely go through an "engagement" ceremony to be married at a later time; this is to announce shes "off the market". Lol. Anyway, I'm quite optimistic things will work out and hope I don't jinx myself. Shes definitely quite the catch.
Why post now? Just wanted to share some of my experiences for those that might be in the same boat or are taking this path, even with all the doubting members of this forum.