Khmerhamster wrote:Seriously. It has come to this. Tips to get people to like you?Abou-Gor wrote: Perhaps a sort of 10 things to do to get Cambodians to like you, sort of thing.
It worked for Dale Carnegie
Post by violet » Tue Aug 16, 2016 7:10 pm
Khmerhamster wrote:Seriously. It has come to this. Tips to get people to like you?Abou-Gor wrote: Perhaps a sort of 10 things to do to get Cambodians to like you, sort of thing.
Post by Lucky Lucan » Tue Aug 16, 2016 7:11 pm
Ok, I'll bite.Abou-Gor wrote: Perhaps a sort of 10 things to do to get Cambodians to like you, sort of thing.
Post by Khmerhamster » Tue Aug 16, 2016 7:55 pm
Post by salvajeuno » Tue Aug 16, 2016 8:44 pm
All of the above and it really isn't rocket science... more like common senseKhmerhamster wrote:- Ask about their family. What province they come from.Lucky Lucan wrote:Ok, I'll bite.Abou-Gor wrote: Perhaps a sort of 10 things to do to get Cambodians to like you, sort of thing.
1. Smile.
2. Show some respect.
3. Keep calm even if someone is being a bit rude.
4. Speak Khmer, or at least do your best to try.
5. Get to know local people.
6. Don't be such a cunt all the time snowflake.
Someone else can finish the list.
- Make a fuss over their kids.
(Don't touch the bare willies - seriously. That's my rule)
- Don't dress like a tramp
- Say hello.
- If you can't speak Khmer, at least learn a greeting. Learn the right thing to call them (yay, ta, Om, Ming, bou etc)
- Ask them if they have eaten rice yet. I know you don't care - no one does.
- Take photos, but ask permission first and show them the photo after.
- Laugh at yourself.
- Buy your landlord/neighbour the occasional kilo of fruit.
- Don't force your cultural understandings on them. Accept that there will be things that you are never likely to understand and don't tell them how stupid they are.
It's not rocket science.
Post by pablomiguelgarcia » Tue Aug 16, 2016 8:45 pm
Post by Petrol Head » Tue Aug 16, 2016 9:19 pm
No. No. No.Khmerhamster wrote:- Ask about their family. What province they come from.
- Make a fuss over their kids.
(Don't touch the bare willies - seriously. That's my rule)
- Don't dress like a tramp
- Say hello.
- If you can't speak Khmer, at least learn a greeting. Learn the right thing to call them (yay, ta, Om, Ming, bou etc)
- Ask them if they have eaten rice yet. I know you don't care - no one does.
- Take photos, but ask permission first and show them the photo after.
- Laugh at yourself.
- Buy your landlord/neighbour the occasional kilo of fruit.
- Don't force your cultural understandings on them. Accept that there will be things that you are never likely to understand and don't tell them how stupid they are.
It's not rocket science.
Petrol Head wrote:This is how every single conversation with the bongs goes:
1. Have you eaten rice already?
- a) if yes, go to 2.
- b) If no, 10ccs if battambang's finest, stat. Go to 2.
2. You've got fat.
- a) if yes go to 3.
- b) if no go to 3
3. Are you married?
- a) if yes - go to 4.
- b) if no - repeat 1a until 2a to reach 3a.
4. Have you babies yet?
- a) if yes - go to 5.
- b) if no - go to 1a and repeat until 3a.
5. How many babies you have?
- a) if 1 - go to 6.
- b) if 0 - repeat steps 1a and 2a until 3a.
6. How many babies you will have?
- a) 1 or 2 more - go to 7.
- b) 0 more - 5 will be repeated by bong in question with blank expression.
7. Have you eaten rice already?
- a) if yes - go to 1a
- b) if no - go to 1a
Post by Abou-Gor » Tue Aug 16, 2016 9:47 pm
Lucky Lucan wrote:Ok, I'll bite.Abou-Gor wrote: Perhaps a sort of 10 things to do to get Cambodians to like you, sort of thing.
1. Smile. after living here a while it's hard not too, even after almost causing an accident
2. Show some respect. i don't know abut poo but I often use chum ream sor and Lea, if that polite enough?
3. Keep calm even if someone is being a bit rude. i must admit I do lose my cool every now and then, no so much anymore as I have learnt mainly to shut up and smile.
4. Speak Khmer, or at least do your best to try. when I first came I was desperate to learn but found it hard to find a teacher, or anybody who wanted to teach me. I guess they just don't like me in general
5. Get to know local people. i know work colleagues but I dont know whether they like me or not. I got taken to a Khmer club by one of them but I didn't want the prostitute he got for me. I felt embarrassed to tell you the truth. He hasn't invited me out since then.
6. Don't be such a cunt all the time snowflake. That is what I am asking for a guide for. To be honest your advise stinks as I am overly polite until they try getting something out of me, then I just ignore them after that. When I moved into my new apartment I would say hello to all the neighbours, none of them said hello back so I just gave up and pass them without either of us saying a word now. I guess that must be where I'm going wrong. I should just pretend they haven't done it and become friends by buying more stuff from them etc. I wonder if I should change my dont lend money to strangers rule, perhaps that's the way to their heart?
Post by LTO » Tue Aug 16, 2016 10:37 pm
I have found they usually skip question #4. If 'yes' to 3, go to 5.Petrol Head wrote:Tha truthz:Petrol Head wrote:This is how every single conversation with the bongs goes:
1. Have you eaten rice already?
- a) if yes, go to 2.
- b) If no, 10ccs if battambang's finest, stat. Go to 2.
2. You've got fat.
- a) if yes go to 3.
- b) if no go to 3
3. Are you married?
- a) if yes - go to 4.
- b) if no - repeat 1a until 2a to reach 3a.
4. Have you babies yet?
- a) if yes - go to 5.
- b) if no - go to 1a and repeat until 3a.
5. How many babies you have?
- a) if 1 - go to 6.
- b) if 0 - repeat steps 1a and 2a until 3a.
6. How many babies you will have?
- a) 1 or 2 more - go to 7.
- b) 0 more - 5 will be repeated by bong in question with blank expression.
7. Have you eaten rice already?
- a) if yes - go to 1a
- b) if no - go to 1a
Post by Joon » Tue Aug 16, 2016 11:10 pm
Dude, just be yourself. Don't fake the politeness, the interest, the consideration or gratitude.Abou-Gor wrote:Lucky Lucan wrote:Ok, I'll bite.Abou-Gor wrote: Perhaps a sort of 10 things to do to get Cambodians to like you, sort of thing.
1. Smile. after living here a while it's hard not too, even after almost causing an accident
2. Show some respect. i don't know abut poo but I often use chum ream sor and Lea, if that polite enough?
3. Keep calm even if someone is being a bit rude. i must admit I do lose my cool every now and then, no so much anymore as I have learnt mainly to shut up and smile.
4. Speak Khmer, or at least do your best to try. when I first came I was desperate to learn but found it hard to find a teacher, or anybody who wanted to teach me. I guess they just don't like me in general
5. Get to know local people. i know work colleagues but I dont know whether they like me or not. I got taken to a Khmer club by one of them but I didn't want the prostitute he got for me. I felt embarrassed to tell you the truth. He hasn't invited me out since then.
6. Don't be such a cunt all the time snowflake. That is what I am asking for a guide for. To be honest your advise stinks as I am overly polite until they try getting something out of me, then I just ignore them after that. When I moved into my new apartment I would say hello to all the neighbours, none of them said hello back so I just gave up and pass them without either of us saying a word now. I guess that must be where I'm going wrong. I should just pretend they haven't done it and become friends by buying more stuff from them etc. I wonder if I should change my dont lend money to strangers rule, perhaps that's the way to their heart?
Post by Jamie_Lambo » Wed Aug 17, 2016 1:32 am
this is great, makes you think,gavinmac wrote:We addressed a similar topic in a prior thread in 2014. I offered this analogy:
gavinmac wrote:Imagine if the UK went through a civil war and was thrown into total poverty. The UK becomes a third world country (all of it, not just Heathrow Terminal 4). The infrastructure decays, people are starving.
Then some Japanese guys figure out that because everyone in the UK is so poor, they can fly to London on holiday and get drunk every night and pay for sex with English women for a relative pittance. So sex-crazed Japanese dudes just start showing up and throwing money around on booze and English hookers. Oxford Street and every other major street in central London fills up with rows of hooker bars to meet the demand from the sex-crazed Japanese tourists being serviced by impoverished English women. Even many regular English women soon become interested in dating only Japanese men, because English guys are too poor to support them.
Meanwhile, the only way that many English guys can make any money at all is by driving the rich drunk Japanese sex tourists around on motorbikes. Some of the Japanese dudes are total pricks and lowlifes and look down on the English dudes with contempt and say rude shit to them in Japanese, which the English dudes have had to learn to speak in order to support themselves.
Do you think the working-class London motobike drivers would all be cheery rays of sunshine every time they encountered a rich, drunk Japanese tourist walking down the street with his hand on the ass of a scantily clad English girl? Do you think it would be all "Good evening, Gov'nor, where can I take you this evening?"
No. The drunk Japanese dudes would routinely get robbed and have their heads kicked in by local English thugs every single night. Sometimes twice a night.
My point is this. Khmer males, including, and especially, tuk tuk drivers and motodops, are remarkably tolerant of foreign dudes in Cambodia, all things considered, the occasional hiss and spit notwithstanding.
Post by GMJS-440 » Wed Aug 17, 2016 6:18 am
Post by Khmerhamster » Wed Aug 17, 2016 6:23 am
OP, if you are as shy and awkward as your messages suggest then maybe you need to consider going home to familiar surroundings and people.Abou-Gor wrote:Lucky Lucan wrote:Ok, I'll bite.Abou-Gor wrote: Perhaps a sort of 10 things to do to get Cambodians to like you, sort of thing.
1. Smile. after living here a while it's hard not too, even after almost causing an accident
2. Show some respect. i don't know abut poo but I often use chum ream sor and Lea, if that polite enough?
3. Keep calm even if someone is being a bit rude. i must admit I do lose my cool every now and then, no so much anymore as I have learnt mainly to shut up and smile.
4. Speak Khmer, or at least do your best to try. when I first came I was desperate to learn but found it hard to find a teacher, or anybody who wanted to teach me. I guess they just don't like me in general
5. Get to know local people. i know work colleagues but I dont know whether they like me or not. I got taken to a Khmer club by one of them but I didn't want the prostitute he got for me. I felt embarrassed to tell you the truth. He hasn't invited me out since then.
6. Don't be such a cunt all the time snowflake. That is what I am asking for a guide for. To be honest your advise stinks as I am overly polite until they try getting something out of me, then I just ignore them after that. When I moved into my new apartment I would say hello to all the neighbours, none of them said hello back so I just gave up and pass them without either of us saying a word now. I guess that must be where I'm going wrong. I should just pretend they haven't done it and become friends by buying more stuff from them etc. I wonder if I should change my dont lend money to strangers rule, perhaps that's the way to their heart?
Post by mrdome » Wed Aug 17, 2016 3:58 pm
Post by Falcon Randwick » Wed Aug 17, 2016 9:51 pm
Dude, go next door to live in the land of the temple-thieving Siem scum. Cambodians may seem to hate westerners, the Thais quite blatantly fucking do.Abou-Gor wrote:I have been living in Cambodia on and off for a few years now and it seems to me that most of the locals here really hate westerners.