I hear ya, but im sure there are many success stories as well between foreigners and filipinas.Gilmore wrote:I lived in Angeles City from 1996 to 2002, before the introduction of smart phones. During daylight hours, the internet cafes were filled with off-duty bar girls, using dating services to snare prospective husbands. They would never reveal they were hookers-company secretary was a favourite. Many were already engaged, sometimes to 2 or 3 different foreign suckers. Occasionally, one of the poor deluded fools would arrive in Angeles searching for his paramour, only to find she was a working whore.
While working in Cebu, I met an Australian tourist who had paid an exorbitant price to a dating agency in order to travel to major cities, with a guarantee of 2 meetings per day with prospective partners. His newest date then arrived and I immediately identified her by her dress and demeanor as a bar girl-they tend to stand out from other women over there.
It doesn't mean that all Filipinas available online are hookers, but a very large proportion are. If the woman has kids, she will tell you she is finished with the father and is no longer interested in Filipino men. Divorce is illegal there and she is most likely still in a serious relationship with a local. It is standard practice to marry a foreigner, move to his country, obtain citizenship, then divorce the rube and bring their Filipino boyfriend/husband over. Meeting her family means nothing, as they are usually complicit in the scam. The "brother"you meet is often the real partner.
The OP may get lucky, but, in all cases, the relationship is purely transactional. They are not attracted to our good looks or dynamic personalities. To Asian women, Western men look ugly, smell bad and are almost impossible to understand. They succeed by showering a prospect with love and care, a practice sadly lacking in more developed countries.
Im not dumb, I know what the game is all about but I think all women regardless of nationality will look at a man's earning power when looking for a man. I accept that a Filipina looks for security when considering a foreign husband provided that there is a real relationship between the two.
Let me repeat though, I am a youngish 44 year old East Asian guy and considered handsome by South East Asian standards, so this isn't a case where i am a fat and old white guy looking for a young piece of ass. I am looking a young beautiful Filipina that is interested in a real relationship and if i really love her of course i will help her family (with boundaries)
So this girl i met, not only is she beautiful (and Im extremely picky), she has a full time job at Orange Brutus, and she and her brother support their mom as their dad passed away when she was 12. Its unlikely she is a whore or bar girl but i understand that she has had a hard life since her dad passed away and is looking for something better than a local filipino guy who is likely jobless and will take off after inpregnating her.
If things go well, i plan on asking her to sign a prenuptual.