When i was with my girlfriend I told her that after we are married the only reason I would sleep with other women is if she never wanted sex anymore for reason other than being sick, pregnant or injured in some way. This is mainly because despite her having the right to say no It is not good precedent to withhold sex from a spouse. I told her if she were to go more than 6 months without a valid excuse I would let her know exactly what I am doing and why. I hate lying and not highly skilled at it. It is my belief that cheating is doing something you know your spouse would not approve. If it the situation was opposite where I was refusing sex from her she would be in her right to find another man to meet her needs. seeing that I am not doing my duty to her.violet wrote: ↑Wed Oct 31, 2018 9:59 amFfs. Miguelito is the bad guy because he isn't complicit in someone having affairs outside of his marriage.
How about the dude having sex outside of the marriage, who is so worried (along with some of his mates) that his fun will be ruined by couples who (presumably) don't engage in that behaviour) that the wife might find out, actually own his poor behaviour? I don't give a shit if you engage in orgies and sexual relations outside of marriage if that is what you have agreed as a couple, but if you sneak around to do it, you know it is wrong (for your relationship) and you have little respect for your partner as a human being. And then to say it's miguelito who behaved badly....fucknell delusional people.
Anyone in a functioning monogomous relationship these days is made to feel like they are denying basic human nature. It's different strokes for different folks, but if you are mismatched, and/or you get your thrill from illicit sexual behaviour, you are a the one who is behaving badly, simply because of the complete lack of respect for the partner and for your pure selfish behaviour. Label as you will and I will label it as I will.
I know some of you who do this. I don't support it, nor have I ever had occasion to have to lie to any of your partners because of it.... I keep a wide gap between me and almost all your partners for this very reason (among others).
And the old convenient argument of it being the norm and expected in Cambodia is just that, old and convenient....and delusional.
I ended up taking her to a bar i went to and we stayed for a few drinks and we went home and did what we normally do at night. I dont think I would try to take her to one of those again. while we were together we were always pretty good in that department. I was always faithful to her and would only go to bars when she broke up with me for not buying her something. I do think she was unfaithful with me a few times.