wendyaspinall wrote: ↑Mon Nov 29, 2021 10:42 am
You yourself was guilty of straying with your hateful comment of myself which has nothing to do with the thread.And now you trying to make it appear as if I am a bot just because you can’t accept that I am defending myself in a rational manner and not afflicted with any mental illness that some of you are so fond of pushing it. I don’t accept being bullied in this manner and did not expect to be abused by so many hateful expats in this forum. It seems like many of you are fond of abusing me with the mental illness label just to cover up the many wrongs and misdeeds done by your own opportunist Cambodian community.
I don’t get your logic, pointing out that he sees your behavior in this thread as bot-like, can’t really be considered hateful by any normal standard. Insulting perhaps. If you think about it, the point he was trying to make is that you kind of tend to repeat the same arguments time and again regardless of what others contribute, a bit like a poorly designed bot would do. And regardless of how he might come across to you, I guess to most he does have a point there.
You then continue with a full broad-side of anger that is overly generic, more saying how you characterize the members of this forum as a group, instead of proving the bot comparison is faulty by just trying to post something that does not seem utterly similar to previous posts.
I also fail to understand all the anger you display towards Violet, by most standards she seems worried about you in a genuine way. Some of her comments have been in the line of “Well suit yourself I can’t do much more than try” But that is still not attacks on you, just somebody else showing frustration that she failed to get her point across. That she then comes back and in her way tries to help again, is just somebody despite being told off, still can’t help that she cares and whilst it certainly could be labeled as misguided or annoying, it is not vicious in nature.
There is a huge difference between saying to somebody in a public situation that he/she should be locked up in an asylum, mostly intent on causing loss of face and embarrassment, and mentioning in a friendly way that the other party shows some signs of mental unstableness, and ask her to perhaps consider seeing a therapist. The latter approach would for most people lead to them thinking, hmm maybe there is a point in that, and I should at least give it some consideration. After that perhaps deciding they don’t see it that way and saying something like I don’t think that is what I need, in a rational and calm way. By instantly taking it as an insult it becomes pretty obvious that there was zero consideration if the other party perhaps made a valid statement. That in it self obviously not prove that therapy is needed, but by forcefully denying such a statement instantly, that behavior would to others kind of fit into the pattern of self-denial, so even if they don’t state it, it would still hurt your case.
If you want to be seen as rational you kind of need to behave at least somewhat rationally. I mean we can all disagree on various topics, but that does not instantly mean that other opinions are signs that people are trying to belittle you.
I noticed some really nasty photos and video clips, they are clearly out of line and only meant to be hurtful, but I really hope that you can see that Violets question on that topic came from a perspective of concern. And I guess self realization, since she has been pretty lost at times, but lately she seems to be doing better in the head department. (Good for you Violet!!!) I have been in therapy my self in two periods, and it really helped, so all I can say about such suggestions is that it never hurts to give it a thought! You might not agree but that would only be a rational decision if you first consider it, then logically decide that it is not the case.
I really think you should try to reevaluate Violets posts here, you might not like all of them, but I do not think you can find any ill-intent therein. Perhaps a bit off “well then suit yourself” but given what you have delivered directly towards her, I must say that she handled it with impressive calmness if anything.
Either way to be honest I think you are chasing wind mills, but if that is how you want to spend your time then why not.