Why are many western expats not that happy?
The need to see other white people lessens the longer you stay here. Unless it creates revenue, dealing with newcomers can be a hassle. They often bring a lot of attention seeking problems and the desire to change everything according to their point of view. It creates a void and the feeling of wasting time on things that don't matter anyway. The likelihood of them staying longer than 3 years is slim to begin with, and so the people I was hanging out with when I arrived all went home a long time ago.
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Don't agree. I've been here a while and need to see fellow white peeps socially at least once a week. I work in an English language school with Khmers where Khmer language isn't encouraged. The local teachers, whilst educated, are pretty short on social skills. Try discussing world politics, Formula 1, Indian food, women. Not gonna happen, to any great depth. Work, online games, going to the provinces and pop music are their safe subjects. I need to be able to go for a beer around the expat joints, regularly to keep me sane.busybee wrote: ↑Mon Aug 22, 2022 4:28 pmThe need to see other white people lessens the longer you stay here. Unless it creates revenue, dealing with newcomers can be a hassle. They often bring a lot of attention seeking problems and the desire to change everything according to their point of view. It creates a void and the feeling of wasting time on things that don't matter anyway. The likelihood of them staying longer than 3 years is slim to begin with, and so the people I was hanging out with when I arrived all went home a long time ago.
That's just great, enjoy your beer in your favorite places and feel comfortable and have a great time with your own people. I could only encourage any type of social circle that would last longer than the Green Vespa. Have a nice one.
To all the unhappy expats I say try living in Australia. It's shit.
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Maybe for you it is. For me I like living in Australia these days.Dan Murphy wrote: ↑Tue Aug 23, 2022 6:36 pmTo all the unhappy expats I say try living in Australia. It's shit.
I was back in Cambodia last week but was happy to come back to OZ.
Note to self: Must be nice to morons.
For young expats in Cambodia, not sure why they aren't enjoying it. If they aren't too poor, struggling to live on $600/month with nothing to back that up, Cambodia should be a blast. (And, as if they want my advice, if you young expats lack $ back-up, and just can't seem to earn enough to cover expenses, go home. Work a lot at whatever job(s) you find. Live cheap, save money, then return to a country where your minimum $7k savings will supplement whatever a bad Cambodia job pays. Before you are close to skint,, get a better job.)
For old unhappy expats, the problem is knowing things that allow you to easily image how things could be much better (Implied: If THEY would only do things, the way YOU know they should be done.) I think we older folks do this by nature/habit. Happiness, perhaps, is riding the line between using the 'it should be otherwise feeling' to motivate work towards positive change, and acceptance that a) THEY, have the right to make mistakes - you made lots too; and b) often enough, you only THINK you have the answer, in fact you still do as much dumb stuff as everyone else (but maybe just different dumb stuff).
e.g. I just wrote a dumb post, but I think it is dam clever, bordering on wise. Maybe the real key, at whatever age, is mostly looking forward. Who knows.
For old unhappy expats, the problem is knowing things that allow you to easily image how things could be much better (Implied: If THEY would only do things, the way YOU know they should be done.) I think we older folks do this by nature/habit. Happiness, perhaps, is riding the line between using the 'it should be otherwise feeling' to motivate work towards positive change, and acceptance that a) THEY, have the right to make mistakes - you made lots too; and b) often enough, you only THINK you have the answer, in fact you still do as much dumb stuff as everyone else (but maybe just different dumb stuff).
e.g. I just wrote a dumb post, but I think it is dam clever, bordering on wise. Maybe the real key, at whatever age, is mostly looking forward. Who knows.
Generally speaking, if you're not a little cynical, pessimistic and somewhat pissed off with the state of things, then you're probably overly engrossed in yourself and not paying much attention to what's going on around you
If anyone has been here for any length of time they should accept the way things are here otherwise it’ll make them “somewhat pissed off”.Shaka Splodge wrote: ↑Wed Aug 24, 2022 6:11 pmGenerally speaking, if you're not a little cynical, pessimistic and somewhat pissed off with the state of things, then you're probably overly engrossed in yourself and not paying much attention to what's going on around you
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Being a dosser doing very little can be hard work.
"I don't care what the people are thinking, i ain't drunk i'm just drinking"
Tosser?
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Dosser, English slang for a layabout, lazy person, etc. Great to see Tyson Fury bring that word back into regular use!
Meum est propositum in taberna mori,
ut sint Guinness proxima morientis ori.
tunc cantabunt letius angelorum chori:
"Sit Deus propitius huic potatori."
ut sint Guinness proxima morientis ori.
tunc cantabunt letius angelorum chori:
"Sit Deus propitius huic potatori."
I would say that any materialization of happiness could be beneficial for some. It seems that some members really like the classic European lifestyle here. They have access to all the modern appliances to be able to wear their business suits inside mega air-conditioned offices. They read men's health and measure their success in the amount of expensive hand watches in their collection. But hey, wait a minute. I saw an exit point from all that in a monastery just outside of town. A small room, nothing inside, a pair of sandals, a wooden bench and a book from the library. It was 10 years ago. And I have been a truly happy traveller ever since.
Never mind.
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I barely leave my house, have no friends, no social life but a suprisingly decent amount of disposible income since covid- which I can't be arsed to spend.
Am I happy? No. Am I sad? Hell no. Am I probably strung out on natural prozac/indifference? Hell yeah.
I'm actually really excited that a 7/11 is being built nearby, and a Pizza Company- that's how shit life was, and how things can only get better.
Sometimes it's the simple things in life that makes one happy.
Am I happy? No. Am I sad? Hell no. Am I probably strung out on natural prozac/indifference? Hell yeah.
I'm actually really excited that a 7/11 is being built nearby, and a Pizza Company- that's how shit life was, and how things can only get better.
Sometimes it's the simple things in life that makes one happy.
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