I’m the kind of bleeding-hearted fool that could be sucked in to getting involved. It’s happened far too many times.
But I didn’t for several reasons.
As per LL, I also have plenty to deal with already. I also have never engaged with him on the forum, as I was banned from there and told to ‘eff off back to K440’ when I disagreed with a mod over something really minor. So minor that I’ve forgotten what it was about. Now I only normally check out CEO a couple of times a week as a guest.
Also, to be blunt, I found his explanation of how he contracted the illness a tad incongruous (though perhaps his head wasn’t clear when writing that). I have enough people who I help who are in unfortunate situations through no real fault of their own.
So, I feel that it’s legitimate to acknowledge that it’s a sad situation whilst not sending bland RIPs and also not feeling any guilt about not getting involved.
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Indeed.ផោមក្លិនស្អុយ wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 7:43 pmEvery year I get loads of messages on Facebook on my birthday. Never hear from the buggers the rest of the year. But people see that it’s my birthday and feel that they should say something. I wonder if it’s the same here, they see he has died and feel that they should add an insincere RIP.YaTingPom wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 3:53 pmIf that’s the case why not post before?
I’d hate to be in his situation if I ever got sick. Resorting to internet strangers for help. fuck that.
I’d hope I’d have at least 10 friends (apart from Dave!) here who’d step up both financially (not that I really need it but who knows) and support wise.
Ok, maybe less.
As we all age here it’s inevitable for All of us.
(If anyone is wondering, yes I live in PP but never knew or met him, although I did communicate with him regarding his bike but he stopped messaging me weeks ago. Confused and scared he was)
When FB, TOF and here post about people dying, children, the wife of a local savagely murdered, car accident etc there’s lots of empty RIP posts from people who don’t know them, or do, and that’s pretty much all they can contribute. I’ve done the same.
However, what about when some Chinese or Vietnamese die? “Good riddance”, “Evil scum”, when often they were murdered or the person commenting just sees the headline “Chinese”, or whatever, and doesn’t even read the story or usually no one says a word. So many articles about some guy killed and not a dickie bird.
If you’re going to RIP to randoms then do it for everyone not just for selected individuals. They’re all human and have mothers, fathers and family who loved them.
(Happy birthday by the way)
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You’re late, you prick.YaTingPom wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 8:15 pm(Happy birthday by the way)ផោមក្លិនស្អុយ wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 7:43 pmEvery year I get loads of messages on Facebook on my birthday. Never hear from the buggers the rest of the year. But people see that it’s my birthday and feel that they should say something. I wonder if it’s the same here, they see he has died and feel that they should add an insincere RIP.YaTingPom wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 3:53 pmIf that’s the case why not post before?
I’d hate to be in his situation if I ever got sick. Resorting to internet strangers for help. fuck that.
I’d hope I’d have at least 10 friends (apart from Dave!) here who’d step up both financially (not that I really need it but who knows) and support wise.
Ok, maybe less.
As we all age here it’s inevitable for All of us.
(If anyone is wondering, yes I live in PP but never knew or met him, although I did communicate with him regarding his bike but he stopped messaging me weeks ago. Confused and scared he was)
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That's the clincher really. I'm not quite the social animal I was in my teens and twenties when I thought I was going crazy if I didn't go to a party every few days. However I still maintain a small circle of friends, some here and some abroad. I'm also very close with my family. I don't want to judge this guy in any way but he did mention a few times that he had no people close to him. So the lesson here is besides getting health insurance you should try and keep good relations with people and not be too much of a loner, it's unhealthy.ReasonstobefearfulP3 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 8:07 pmThe sadder part being that he was in the country for many years and yet seemed to be mostly alone.
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Not only does the fact I laughed out loud at that suggest I'll also die alone but when you add it to all the other things I've laughed at in my life, it's clear to me where I'll be spending any afterlife.rektj00 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 5:21 pmI think dying alone would be preferable to having either Richard or Roz by your side. Reminds me of that poker player that murdered his girlfriend in Phnom Penh years back. He commit suicide in his cell when faced with the prospect of years of visits from Kensvey.
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That's what scares me. My wife and I are basically the only people we have in each others lives. My son died 2 years ago but was very disrespectful towards my wife, his stepmother. My wife's son only reaches out when he needs help or money.Lucky Lucan wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 8:31 pmThat's the clincher really. I'm not quite the social animal I was in my teens and twenties when I thought I was going crazy if I didn't go to a party every few days. However I still maintain a small circle of friends, some here and some abroad. I'm also very close with my family. I don't want to judge this guy in any way but he did mention a few times that he had no people close to him. So the lesson here is besides getting health insurance you should try and keep good relations with people and not be too much of a loner, it's unhealthy.ReasonstobefearfulP3 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 8:07 pmThe sadder part being that he was in the country for many years and yet seemed to be mostly alone.
I don't know why but we find it difficult to find genuine people for friends. Most of our families are selfish or alcoholics, and most of our friends are more trouble than they are worth.
I never socialized when I worked, and when I did inevitably they'd be single guys (I worked on construction) who drank too much and didn't add much to the friendship. My wife has been sick for almost 25 years so doesn't get a chance to socialize. And we live in an isolated area.
I'm terrified of either dying before my wife for her sake and vice versa.
I'm saying this to just give an idea that every person's situation is different. Perhaps the person who died mostly alone. just couldn't make connections with people very easily like myself and my wife.
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It's not just that. Less than a year ago his partner was very sick, and there was a shortage of funds back then too. About ten posters, including me, stepped in at that time. donating money for his partner's treatment even though the outcome would be definite.ផោមក្លិនស្អុយ wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 7:43 pmEvery year I get loads of messages on Facebook on my birthday. Never hear from the buggers the rest of the year. But people see that it’s my birthday and feel that they should say something. I wonder if it’s the same here, they see he has died and feel that they should add an insincere RIP.
For me, and I can imagine for other posters as well, that was the reason not to step in this time. One can only, or wants to do only, so much for a person you know online only.
But don't forget this time nearly 1,000$ was donated by an unknown amount of posters, posters have visited him in the hospital, a wheelchair was arranged, a paid helper was arranged, his bank issues were solved and Rozz went out of her way to support him. The flak she receives here seems inappropriate to me, maybe aim it towards another poster for blaming others 'not stepping in' while trying to get a bike at a bargain from a guy in need.
Anyway, a lesson can be learned from this. 'Self insurance' has it limits and if you're knocked down without a really good friend, partner or kid you're fucked.
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I’m not aware of Rozz getting flak on here.
She seems to get her fair share of flak on TOF, but to be fair some of it seems to be brought on by herself.
And about the bike, do you know the poster tried to get it at a bargain? Or are you just adding your own spin to the story. Nothing like trying to cook up a bit of drama…
She seems to get her fair share of flak on TOF, but to be fair some of it seems to be brought on by herself.
And about the bike, do you know the poster tried to get it at a bargain? Or are you just adding your own spin to the story. Nothing like trying to cook up a bit of drama…
Lol. No one has targeted Roz. Her and Richard have been mentioned because they stepped up.
Regarding the bike: It’s only a bargain with an ID card.
For the record he contacted me and asked if I was interested as I’d shown interest before. Not that it matters now.
Why don’t you log in using your real username or TOF name instead of posting as a guest like a feeble internet troll?
Regarding the bike: It’s only a bargain with an ID card.
For the record he contacted me and asked if I was interested as I’d shown interest before. Not that it matters now.
Why don’t you log in using your real username or TOF name instead of posting as a guest like a feeble internet troll?
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There’s so many stories like this about TOF.ផោមក្លិនស្អុយ wrote: ↑Tue Oct 04, 2022 8:15 pmI also have never engaged with him on the forum, as I was banned from there and told to ‘eff off back to K440’ when I disagreed with a mod over something really minor. So minor that I’ve forgotten what it was about.
I also was banned in almost identical circumstances, where my post wasn’t abusive, wasn’t inflammatory, wasn’t libellous, wasn’t spam, wasn’t off topic, but it did disagree on a point with one of the other posters, who happened to be a mod with a shockingly fragile ego, who went off on a massive rant suggesting that my presence on the forums was somehow illegitimate.
You can post as much dumbfuck dangerous conspiracy theories or bigoted bullcrap as you’ve got the energy for, but if in the process of a normal thread you contradict someone and forget that they’re a mod then it’s bye-bye.
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Yep. Same same. I simply expressed an opinion that didn't go over too well with a few regulars and a mod so I got a 2 week vacation. No chance to discuss or defend my opinion. When I came back and asked if anyone wanted to actually discuss the topic rationally there were no takers. I've since seen the same opinion expressed several times but without the same outcome. Go figure.
I've learned over 10 years of posting to bite my tongue and try not to ruffle any feathers too much. I also try not to get too pissed about what people say about me or my opinions.
Another trick is to not post when you're drunk. That usually gets you into a stupid argument that really is not worth it.
But ya that experience really left a bad taste in my mouth.
I've learned over 10 years of posting to bite my tongue and try not to ruffle any feathers too much. I also try not to get too pissed about what people say about me or my opinions.
Another trick is to not post when you're drunk. That usually gets you into a stupid argument that really is not worth it.
But ya that experience really left a bad taste in my mouth.
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