I didn't say you ruined it for them. You did state (jokingly or not) that you made a number of them jaded and "playing your cards right", "seduction" are just another way of saying they somehow were persuaded to have their first sexual experience with you. I don't know what convinced them. Maybe they were mistaken, maybe they were just too consumed with desire, maybe you're just one helluva swell guy, maybe you just outright lied. In any case, what you wrote just came off as bragging.LexusSchmexus wrote:Really Joon?! I thought .... I don't think it's fair to say I've ruined them or anything, as it takes two consenting adults to tango. I don't have notches in my bedpost either. Also not sure where you get the "persuasion" bit. I simply play my cards well, that's all. I think we can agree that seduction is part of any relationship? Sure, with some of the earlier ones I was also younger and didn't take things as seriously as they'd probably hoped for (marriage), but I don't think they're any worse off now. Some ask me for advice about their current guys (and I do the same about my current girl).
Also, a woman who doesn't want sex with her dates is not necessarily a virgin. Maybe she precisely gave away her virginity to a guy who persuaded/seduced her and vanished and has trust issues since then.