I'm just a girl looking for a sart songsar...
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I'm just a girl looking for a sart songsar...
Choumreap sour my lovelies. This is sort of a cross between a question and just something I need to get off my chest because it's one of those nights. If this is something that would be better posted in the Questions board, feel free to move it, but I figured I'd post it here since it said this is the place to talk about relationships. It's no secret that a fair amount of western ex-pat men go to Cambodia to find love. And who can blame them? Khmer women are literally perfect, both inside and out. It seems like Western men can couple with a Khmer woman fairly easily (at least as far as I know, correct me if I'm wrong.) But how is the dating scene when it's the other way around? When I move to Cambodia, I want to find a good local Khmer man to love and hopefully marry. I am a small part Khmer myself, which is why I've always felt a connection to that land, but I was born in America and my Khmer relatives had already passed before I could meet them, and I look 100% white. Another reason for my desire to live in Cambodia is the fact that morals and family values are still a corner stone of their culture. Western civilization has failed. We're past the point of no return. As much as Trump says he's going to "Make America Great Again", there's no way he can turn back the toxic shift in our culture. The family unit is doneski. But, I digress.
I've spoken to many people, both Western and Khmer about what the dating scene would be like for me in Cambodia. They all seem to say the same thing: The reputation of Western women precedes them. Khmer men want proper women. Proper wives. Not boisterous, high maintenance, slutty, disobedient products of post-modern feminism. I know it's cliché to say "I'm not like other girls", but I don't mean it in the sense that I'm LOL quirky or something like that. I'm not like other girls because it seems like most girls today in Western culture want to "stick it to the Patriarchy." I don't. I want the Patriarchy back. I'm a 27 year old woman who wants to be a woman. My heart can't take anymore beta cucks. I don't mean to generalize all Western men, I know there are still Western men with masculinity and morals, but I can't take the pain that comes with trying to separate the wheat from the chaff anymore.
There are so many Khmer men who hold to traditional, conservative values want traditional wives, and I respect and admire that so much. I want to be a traditional, conservative wife. I want to cook and clean for him, turn our house into a home. I want to keep myself thin and pretty for him, and keep him warm and make him happy. He'll get stimulating conversation from me when he wants it and silence when he needs it. I'll support him in everything he does and be a lap to rest his head in and an ear to listen after a hard day. I'm aspiring to be a published fiction author, and I'll use my creativity to dazzle him. I'll give him what he wants, when he wants, how he wants it. I'll give him children he can be proud of and be an amazing mother....uuuhg, I'm sorry if I went on a thirsty rant. I'm so damn thirsty and I've been alone for so long, and Valentine's Day makes me sad and brings up these feelings in me.
So what do you think? Do you think a local man could look past the negative stereotype of the western woman and fall for me?
I've spoken to many people, both Western and Khmer about what the dating scene would be like for me in Cambodia. They all seem to say the same thing: The reputation of Western women precedes them. Khmer men want proper women. Proper wives. Not boisterous, high maintenance, slutty, disobedient products of post-modern feminism. I know it's cliché to say "I'm not like other girls", but I don't mean it in the sense that I'm LOL quirky or something like that. I'm not like other girls because it seems like most girls today in Western culture want to "stick it to the Patriarchy." I don't. I want the Patriarchy back. I'm a 27 year old woman who wants to be a woman. My heart can't take anymore beta cucks. I don't mean to generalize all Western men, I know there are still Western men with masculinity and morals, but I can't take the pain that comes with trying to separate the wheat from the chaff anymore.
There are so many Khmer men who hold to traditional, conservative values want traditional wives, and I respect and admire that so much. I want to be a traditional, conservative wife. I want to cook and clean for him, turn our house into a home. I want to keep myself thin and pretty for him, and keep him warm and make him happy. He'll get stimulating conversation from me when he wants it and silence when he needs it. I'll support him in everything he does and be a lap to rest his head in and an ear to listen after a hard day. I'm aspiring to be a published fiction author, and I'll use my creativity to dazzle him. I'll give him what he wants, when he wants, how he wants it. I'll give him children he can be proud of and be an amazing mother....uuuhg, I'm sorry if I went on a thirsty rant. I'm so damn thirsty and I've been alone for so long, and Valentine's Day makes me sad and brings up these feelings in me.
So what do you think? Do you think a local man could look past the negative stereotype of the western woman and fall for me?
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There are more than a handful of Western woman Khmer man couples. They even come in a range of different stereotypes.
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Relationships between Western Women and Khmer Men are not at all uncommon, many are even starting families of their own.
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Most Khmer men are dirt poor. You'll get a fair number of marriage proposals from tuk tuk drivers though. We had poster here named Miss Tara who got engaged to or married a tuk tuk driver. It didn't work out.
How much time have you spent in Cambodia? What morals do you think are a cornerstone of Cambodian culture that make a Khmer man better than a Western man?
How much time have you spent in Cambodia? What morals do you think are a cornerstone of Cambodian culture that make a Khmer man better than a Western man?
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1. Do you speak any Khmer?
2. You're romanticizing the idea that Khmer men are more traditional than others. In large part I would say they are, and there are many good guys out there. However, there are a lot of others who go whoring at the KTVs after hours or on Sunday mornings. There are traditional men everywhere in the world. Yes, it's partly cultural, but the core 80% is finding someone who shares your values and that you're compatible with.
2. You're romanticizing the idea that Khmer men are more traditional than others. In large part I would say they are, and there are many good guys out there. However, there are a lot of others who go whoring at the KTVs after hours or on Sunday mornings. There are traditional men everywhere in the world. Yes, it's partly cultural, but the core 80% is finding someone who shares your values and that you're compatible with.
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I apologize. I didn't mean to stereotype anyone. A better way to word it would be - the difference between a culture where conservatism and traditionalism are the valued norm as opposed to Western culture, where those things are being actively rejected and (wrongly) demonized.PSD_Kiwi wrote:Relationships between Western Women and Khmer Men are not at all uncommon, many are even starting families of their own.
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It also helps to find someone who earns more than $300 a month if you want to be a housewife and raise a family and whatnot. That rules out a lot of Khmer men.LexusSchmexus wrote:1. Do you speak any Khmer?
2. You're romanticizing the idea that Khmer men are more traditional than others. In large part I would say they are, and there are many good guys out there. However, there are a lot of others who go whoring at the KTVs after hours or on Sunday mornings. There are traditional men everywhere in the world. Yes, it's partly cultural, but the core 80% is finding someone who shares your values and that you're compatible with.
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Wrong on both counts.Khmer women are literally perfect, both inside and out. It seems like Western men can couple with a Khmer woman fairly easily (at least as far as I know, correct me if I'm wrong.)
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It sounds so lovely it almost reads like a work of fiction. I think there are a lot of miserable western women in Cambodia because they will not date Khmer and cannot land a man. If you are willing, and you are as lovely as you sound, you will have no problems. Come and see, and good luck to you.
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I speak a little Khmer and am working hard on learning it.LexusSchmexus wrote:1. Do you speak any Khmer?
2. You're romanticizing the idea that Khmer men are more traditional than others. In large part I would say they are, and there are many good guys out there. However, there are a lot of others who go whoring at the KTVs after hours or on Sunday mornings. There are traditional men everywhere in the world. Yes, it's partly cultural, but the core 80% is finding someone who shares your values and that you're compatible with.
The bar has become set so low on Western civilization all I can hope for in a western man at this point is that he's not a cuckhold or turns into a tranny (this has happened to me). In all seriousness though, I just don't want a man who's poisoned by liberalism, Marxism, and post-modern feminism. In Khmer culture, conservatism and family values are still the norm. The importance of the nuclear family. Marriage between one man and one woman with divorce being a last resort, not a first resort. Men and women having different, but equally important roles and places. An overall simpler life.gavinmac wrote:Most Khmer men are dirt poor. You'll get a fair number of marriage proposals from tuk tuk drivers though. We had poster here named Miss Tara who got engaged to or married a tuk tuk driver. It didn't work out.
I understand that. I'm not about a man having money and I'm of course willing to work to support the household.
How much time have you spent in Cambodia? What morals do you think are a cornerstone of Cambodian culture that make a Khmer man better than a Western man?
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So your endgame is to get married with a Khmer man and live with him in Cambodia?
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