Ok, here's the story:
I am under 30, came here on a international project.
Main reason to be in Cambodia was never to date local girls. Work, experience, sell my ass for more money back home. That was it.
Until last week.
Met a nice, cute, local lady my age. Asked her out, she agreed.
Went out, she proposed to split bills, excellent English, smart, funny, living alone.
BUT! Zero progress towards meaningful physical contact - no hugs, no kisses (any type), no hands-holding, nope.
Don't get me wrong, I am not into it for the touching and the sex only, but I am coming from a country where a lot of physical contact takes place even when not romantically involved with someone.
So, 4 questions:
1. Is the entire no-physical-contact-thingy normal here? Or she is just not that much into me and is saving (my face?) by being too polite and not refusing going out with me.
2. Would asking and talking about these things be perceived as pushy? I don't want it to be read as "I am asking, so, you know, you can tell me when we will fuck". I don't have that much time in Cambodia left (and she knows) but I want to know how far I can expect this to go and I am not missing something out.
3. Should I press for physical contact on date 2 (yes, there will be #2). Does being more aggressive help in general?
4. What are your experiences with physical contact with "normal" (not for rent) females in Cambodia - at what point you started doing what?
Sorry if I sound like a dating noob, but here, I feel all my dating and relationship knowledge is useless and I would like to explore the opportunity to the fullest and fucking shit up does not help with this.
Just another dating story
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@Alex - right? God, so it is not just me. It is actually weird.
@gavinmac - of course I refused to split.
For the record, I get some non-verbal signs that she likes me (very obvious blushing even for very small compliments, laughing to my stupid jokes, the starry-eyed-look i.e.) but the rest of the behavior is complete contradiction. Total enigma for now.
Any comments on being more aggressive?
Is that expected? The culture is more male dominated and maybe I am being too careful for the local standard.
PS: These are my first forum posts on any site for more than 15 years. Demonstrates how much at a loss I am and how Google does not always know everything
@gavinmac - of course I refused to split.
For the record, I get some non-verbal signs that she likes me (very obvious blushing even for very small compliments, laughing to my stupid jokes, the starry-eyed-look i.e.) but the rest of the behavior is complete contradiction. Total enigma for now.
Any comments on being more aggressive?
Is that expected? The culture is more male dominated and maybe I am being too careful for the local standard.
PS: These are my first forum posts on any site for more than 15 years. Demonstrates how much at a loss I am and how Google does not always know everything
YoungBarang wrote: ↑Mon Jan 13, 2020 11:29 am
...................................but the rest of the behavior is complete contradiction. Total enigma for now.
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Does she work at a bank or something? Cause then, she might be worth the time.
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She's a single, 30-ish year old Cambodian woman.
You're white, I assume.
If you propose marriage to her on the next date, she'll probably say yes.
But she may not be ready to have sex with you. Is she a virgin?
You're white, I assume.
If you propose marriage to her on the next date, she'll probably say yes.
But she may not be ready to have sex with you. Is she a virgin?
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Read some experiences:
if you have sex, and you don't marry them, you get to feel guilty about that for the rest of your life
The last time I had sex with a Cambodian woman was early 2014 and she was a virgin, so it was quite traumatic for both of us.
Khmer good girls
hence she had never had sex before
if you have sex, and you don't marry them, you get to feel guilty about that for the rest of your life
The last time I had sex with a Cambodian woman was early 2014 and she was a virgin, so it was quite traumatic for both of us.
Khmer good girls
hence she had never had sex before
No white man hides himself in the wilderness without a reason
After more than ten years I have never touched special friend in public nor she me. I think she'd jump out of her skin if I tried to put my arm round her or something in the street.
Occasionally in a restaurant or something a bit of hand holding happens.
I find it sweet.
Occasionally in a restaurant or something a bit of hand holding happens.
I find it sweet.
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PDA is not a thing in cambodia,
and if shes a good girl, the chances of getting alone time with her in the space of 2 dates are slim to none,
being aggressive/pushy will probably have a negative effect, not a positive one
and if shes a good girl, the chances of getting alone time with her in the space of 2 dates are slim to none,
being aggressive/pushy will probably have a negative effect, not a positive one
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