Sex Education for Young Teenagers in Cambodia
Sex Education for Young Teenagers in Cambodia
Step Daughter is on the verge of puberty and Step Son has a face full of pimples and a slight shadow on his upper lip.
Their bodies are changing and they need to understand what is happening.
I'm rather blunt and unashamed when talking about this stuff,
But I'm not in country and thanks to the Virus won't be back for a considerable time.
So I asked the lovely wife if she could talk to the daughter and get an uncle to talk to the son.
Explain to them how their body was changing and not feel embarrassed about it and be comfortable in discussing the changes.
Shock / Horror was her reply.
I cannot do this, I don't know how to have this discussion.
She was never told about having a period, it just happened and she thought she was going to die.
After her 3rd or 4th period and aunt told her she was now a woman and this would happen every month.
No explanation was given as to why this change took place.
As to explaining this stuff to the boy, she doesn't know how to discuss this with her brothers so there is limited chance they can discuss it with her son.
I'm looking for some basic information written in Khmer on the reproductive system.
What I'd like to do is send both kids and mum links and then talk them through the information.
After that there is an Aunt and a Nephew who are rather switched on who I will also send the information to and ask them to have a chat with the kids.
Thanks in Advance for your considered opinions.
Their bodies are changing and they need to understand what is happening.
I'm rather blunt and unashamed when talking about this stuff,
But I'm not in country and thanks to the Virus won't be back for a considerable time.
So I asked the lovely wife if she could talk to the daughter and get an uncle to talk to the son.
Explain to them how their body was changing and not feel embarrassed about it and be comfortable in discussing the changes.
Shock / Horror was her reply.
I cannot do this, I don't know how to have this discussion.
She was never told about having a period, it just happened and she thought she was going to die.
After her 3rd or 4th period and aunt told her she was now a woman and this would happen every month.
No explanation was given as to why this change took place.
As to explaining this stuff to the boy, she doesn't know how to discuss this with her brothers so there is limited chance they can discuss it with her son.
I'm looking for some basic information written in Khmer on the reproductive system.
What I'd like to do is send both kids and mum links and then talk them through the information.
After that there is an Aunt and a Nephew who are rather switched on who I will also send the information to and ask them to have a chat with the kids.
Thanks in Advance for your considered opinions.
I refuse to go out with nothing more than a whimper followed by a small farting sound and a shit stain on my bed sheets..
Just thought I'd share that with you.
Just thought I'd share that with you.
Point of interest.
This thread was not posted in the speak easy section.
So cheap arse comments are not warranted, and have been deleted.
It was posted in a section of k440 that is specifically related to Family, Children and Relationships. in Cambodia.
This thread was not posted in the speak easy section.
So cheap arse comments are not warranted, and have been deleted.
It was posted in a section of k440 that is specifically related to Family, Children and Relationships. in Cambodia.
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I refuse to go out with nothing more than a whimper followed by a small farting sound and a shit stain on my bed sheets..
Just thought I'd share that with you.
Just thought I'd share that with you.
I'd stay way out of it. Assuming they are are her children from a Khmer father it would not be appropriate to start offering them advise unless asked to do so.
TheGrimReaper wrote: ↑Mon Sep 02, 2019 1:45 pmSlavedog, you do not belong on this forum as you talk too much sense.
I've been their active father figure for the past 5 years.
I'm a member of the extended family and have been welcomed without reservation.
I appreciate your comment slavedog and under stand it was given in good faith.
I assure you my involvement is welcomed.
I refuse to go out with nothing more than a whimper followed by a small farting sound and a shit stain on my bed sheets..
Just thought I'd share that with you.
Just thought I'd share that with you.
That's a "difficult" topic.
At Beltei, they do get in Grade 8 some items around family values. Probably not the really explicit things and I would say, it's a little late.
At Grade 11, they get education around Drugs and Aids. A little late for those who have a tendency to derail and denying that even 14-year-olds are very interested in the whole sex thing.
At Grade 12, they have the whole biological side of this subject in the Biology tuition (at least, the pictures were there in the book, though it could be the subject gets skipped with the official tuition).
Though this subject is certainly less covered than current non-conservative Western societies. Nothing about gay, or so.
So, I did some "education" myself:
- For the oldest one (now 17), I focused on "Internet Hygiene", especially when being in 1:1 chats with others. I showed her how easy it is to make screen captures and video's of what is being done on the phone/laptop. So, if, etc. Red face, eyes popped out, I think she learned enough and the coin dropped.
- Junior got some education to "behave" towards girls, respect girls, if he wants a girlfriend. Seems to have worked, because he seems to get positive girl attention nowadays.
- I caught Junior and mini on making "interesting" video's. Where I asked them what would happen, if the camera would be stolen and those videos would show up on YT. I think, after my lecture, they did understand they should not do this again.
- Older sister of the oldest one got "educated" about being a Lesbian. Hefty denials, though a year later she started wearing pink shirts, clothing with rainbow symbols, and she seems to be feeling much better now. I did not hear about an official coming out, though it's clear she starts accepting her own being.
Next one to do, is to educate Junior on the effects of 1:1 online chats and the like.....
So, yeah, this subject certainly needs some more things than in the Cambodia past-times.
At Beltei, they do get in Grade 8 some items around family values. Probably not the really explicit things and I would say, it's a little late.
At Grade 11, they get education around Drugs and Aids. A little late for those who have a tendency to derail and denying that even 14-year-olds are very interested in the whole sex thing.
At Grade 12, they have the whole biological side of this subject in the Biology tuition (at least, the pictures were there in the book, though it could be the subject gets skipped with the official tuition).
Though this subject is certainly less covered than current non-conservative Western societies. Nothing about gay, or so.
So, I did some "education" myself:
- For the oldest one (now 17), I focused on "Internet Hygiene", especially when being in 1:1 chats with others. I showed her how easy it is to make screen captures and video's of what is being done on the phone/laptop. So, if, etc. Red face, eyes popped out, I think she learned enough and the coin dropped.
- Junior got some education to "behave" towards girls, respect girls, if he wants a girlfriend. Seems to have worked, because he seems to get positive girl attention nowadays.
- I caught Junior and mini on making "interesting" video's. Where I asked them what would happen, if the camera would be stolen and those videos would show up on YT. I think, after my lecture, they did understand they should not do this again.
- Older sister of the oldest one got "educated" about being a Lesbian. Hefty denials, though a year later she started wearing pink shirts, clothing with rainbow symbols, and she seems to be feeling much better now. I did not hear about an official coming out, though it's clear she starts accepting her own being.
Next one to do, is to educate Junior on the effects of 1:1 online chats and the like.....
So, yeah, this subject certainly needs some more things than in the Cambodia past-times.
Thanks v12,
I appreciate your comments.
I appreciate your comments.
I refuse to go out with nothing more than a whimper followed by a small farting sound and a shit stain on my bed sheets..
Just thought I'd share that with you.
Just thought I'd share that with you.
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OK, scoffer, as I was one of those who made silly comments on your other thread recently, I’d like to try to make amends.
Firstly, in an International School, it is first dealt with in year 5, in a rather simple way; slightly more information is given in year 6, with the whole range of knowledge being covered in detail by the third term of year 7. Typically, a year 8 student will be about 14 years old, so by then all bases have been covered (maybe not for boys, yet, but certainly, most girls.)
However, in a local school, as you have rightly observed, the ‘birds & bees’ have, most likely, not even been mentioned.
I’d like to be able to help with information in Khmer, but am afraid I am totally inadequate in that respect.
In my humble opinion, if no other family folk are going to offer explanations, it might be better to offer your own explanations for their bodily changes.
I think it is best to not treat this as ‘advice’, but merely ‘medical knowledge’. As ‘slavedog’ points out, ‘advice’ may be construed as ‘Colonial interference’ from a Barang.
It’s a tough choice.
In the end, families have ‘survived’ for generations in Cambodia, so it might just be as well to ‘let things be’ and just let children grow up.
Cambodians have their way of doing things and so does ‘the West’. As Kipling observed: ‘East is East & West is West & ne’er the twain shall meet.’
Just a few thoughts & I hope things work out!
Firstly, in an International School, it is first dealt with in year 5, in a rather simple way; slightly more information is given in year 6, with the whole range of knowledge being covered in detail by the third term of year 7. Typically, a year 8 student will be about 14 years old, so by then all bases have been covered (maybe not for boys, yet, but certainly, most girls.)
However, in a local school, as you have rightly observed, the ‘birds & bees’ have, most likely, not even been mentioned.
I’d like to be able to help with information in Khmer, but am afraid I am totally inadequate in that respect.
In my humble opinion, if no other family folk are going to offer explanations, it might be better to offer your own explanations for their bodily changes.
I think it is best to not treat this as ‘advice’, but merely ‘medical knowledge’. As ‘slavedog’ points out, ‘advice’ may be construed as ‘Colonial interference’ from a Barang.
It’s a tough choice.
In the end, families have ‘survived’ for generations in Cambodia, so it might just be as well to ‘let things be’ and just let children grow up.
Cambodians have their way of doing things and so does ‘the West’. As Kipling observed: ‘East is East & West is West & ne’er the twain shall meet.’
Just a few thoughts & I hope things work out!
'History is a set of lies agreed upon.'
Attributed to Napoleon
Attributed to Napoleon
Yeah, be careful with the "explicit" things, though be "on-time" to avoid disasters because of the Internet opportunities and "modern" "open" society aspects.
YTP,
I've deleted your posts because they were so off target and ignorant of the topic in question.
I've deleted your posts because they were so off target and ignorant of the topic in question.
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pew, pew, pew, pew!
Thanks springrain.
However there is no apology required.
How to deal with their development from child to adolescent is an awkward position.
In no uncertain terms, after 5 years of being their father I know there are still communication issues that occur.
Just got off the phone with mum and we were discussing how to educate the kids in sexual development.
After about 2 min's she just cracked it and said neither her or family members know how to discuss this.
Yep it's a mine field.
However there is no apology required.
How to deal with their development from child to adolescent is an awkward position.
In no uncertain terms, after 5 years of being their father I know there are still communication issues that occur.
Just got off the phone with mum and we were discussing how to educate the kids in sexual development.
After about 2 min's she just cracked it and said neither her or family members know how to discuss this.
Yep it's a mine field.
I refuse to go out with nothing more than a whimper followed by a small farting sound and a shit stain on my bed sheets..
Just thought I'd share that with you.
Just thought I'd share that with you.
- springrain
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It certainly is!scoffer wrote: ↑Mon May 25, 2020 5:51 pmThanks springrain.
However there is no apology required.
How to deal with their development from child to adolescent is an awkward position.
In no uncertain terms, after 5 years of being their father I know there are still communication issues that occur.
Just got off the phone with mum and we were discussing how to educate the kids in sexual development.
After about 2 min's she just cracked it and said neither her or family members know how to discuss this.
Yep it's a mine field.
Well, I sincerely hope you find a way.
Perhaps, start a sensitive, general discussion, yourself?
After all, it's 'Birds & Bees'.
Nothing too serious, really.
It's just what used to be called 'facts of life'.
Cripes, that's all it is.
OK, I can't add any more, but hope you find solace in doing what should come naturally, to all. Parents speak to their kids about changes in their bodies.
You seem like a thoroughly decent bloke who cares about kids & their development. Lord knows, we could do with a bit more LOVE in this world. And decency.
Adios!
'History is a set of lies agreed upon.'
Attributed to Napoleon
Attributed to Napoleon
You asked for opinions and I gave mine. Sorry it upsets your views but the only female here (violet) seemed to agree.
Delete my replies.
It’s no wonder people leave this forum.
Delete my replies.
It’s no wonder people leave this forum.
pew, pew, pew, pew!
I don't follow, you say your involvement is welcome, yet your wife's s reaction of shock and horror when you broached the topic contradicts that.
As Springrain says, Khmers have their own ways of dealing with this kind of stuff, best leave them to. I would make it known to the kids that you are willing to discuss it - or anything else - with them should they wish to. But to push it further than that risks making a faux pas that could do more harm than good.
To be perfectly honest, if I hadn't met you and know you to be a decent fellow I'd find the whole thing a bit creepy.
TheGrimReaper wrote: ↑Mon Sep 02, 2019 1:45 pmSlavedog, you do not belong on this forum as you talk too much sense.
The activity seems to be increasing lately so I do not think people leaving is much of an issue, maybe in the past. I'd like to think scoffers moderation is a big reason for that increase.
"Those who can, do. Those who can't, teach. Those who can't teach, teach English."
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