I have a child in Cambodia. Help needed.
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I have a child in Cambodia. Help needed.
Hello to all.
In 2016 my plan was to marry a Khmer. Booked a flight and flied to Phnom Penh with friends. Everything was fine till we start wedding preparations. We didn't agreed about nothing with her family, argued and fight came. Ceremony was cancelled. I was sad, depressed and angry because "wife" agreed with her family, acted as their dog and after all spent a lot of money for nothing.
We left the guesthouse that evening and went to some village tuk tuk driver suggested. "Wife" cried loud, begged to stay, hanged on my hand, I dragged her through mud, everybody around argued and made so much noise all villagers were outside. Saddest moment in my life for sure. I have clean picture of her crying face on ground when we left. Our visas were 30 days, everything was cheap, so we went around and explored country. We saw that we were hot stuff among women, so we enjoyed till we flied back. Now letter came from government that 5 year old son is in search and wants to meet his father and if I want to response on request. Picture is attached, he and probably mom, she is my taste but don't remember to be with her.
Situation:
I am married with other Khmer met in 2017. We have children and good life together. If I tell her we would separate. I'm almost sure boy on picture is my son. Look as a copy of my son I have with wife. Wife doesn't know nothing about this and I wouldn't tell her for nothing. I'm prepared to lie too.
I can not afford to loose a family so question is: Is any chance she can demand father test from Cambodia?
If she can, can they get family visa if test would show I'm the father?
I'm afraid one day someone will knock on door and ruin my life.
Thank you.
In 2016 my plan was to marry a Khmer. Booked a flight and flied to Phnom Penh with friends. Everything was fine till we start wedding preparations. We didn't agreed about nothing with her family, argued and fight came. Ceremony was cancelled. I was sad, depressed and angry because "wife" agreed with her family, acted as their dog and after all spent a lot of money for nothing.
We left the guesthouse that evening and went to some village tuk tuk driver suggested. "Wife" cried loud, begged to stay, hanged on my hand, I dragged her through mud, everybody around argued and made so much noise all villagers were outside. Saddest moment in my life for sure. I have clean picture of her crying face on ground when we left. Our visas were 30 days, everything was cheap, so we went around and explored country. We saw that we were hot stuff among women, so we enjoyed till we flied back. Now letter came from government that 5 year old son is in search and wants to meet his father and if I want to response on request. Picture is attached, he and probably mom, she is my taste but don't remember to be with her.
Situation:
I am married with other Khmer met in 2017. We have children and good life together. If I tell her we would separate. I'm almost sure boy on picture is my son. Look as a copy of my son I have with wife. Wife doesn't know nothing about this and I wouldn't tell her for nothing. I'm prepared to lie too.
I can not afford to loose a family so question is: Is any chance she can demand father test from Cambodia?
If she can, can they get family visa if test would show I'm the father?
I'm afraid one day someone will knock on door and ruin my life.
Thank you.
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Familial visas depend on the country you are in; we have no idea where you are residing. I doubt anyone can enforce a paternity test anywhere.
Clearly someone in Cambodia knows of the potential paternal link and how to contact you. As such, there is the potential for interested parties to track you down and make contact with either you or your family via social media.
You should arrange for a paternity test and if the child is yours live up to your responsibilities regarding his welfare.
Clearly someone in Cambodia knows of the potential paternal link and how to contact you. As such, there is the potential for interested parties to track you down and make contact with either you or your family via social media.
You should arrange for a paternity test and if the child is yours live up to your responsibilities regarding his welfare.
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Do government agencies do that?
Probably an NGO or someone scamming you.
Probably an NGO or someone scamming you.
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Doesn't make much sense.
The mother, you can't remember - so a one night stand? Did you give her your passport as collateral whilst you went to ATM.
How does a one night stand find your after 6+ years? Who has contacted you, the government? Which government?
The mother, you can't remember - so a one night stand? Did you give her your passport as collateral whilst you went to ATM.
How does a one night stand find your after 6+ years? Who has contacted you, the government? Which government?
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I seem to remember the German gov does this...not sure about others
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Our government - administrative unit. Looks like she know my name and surname and probably age and few other details too, but she doesn't know the address and government won't give it to stranger- Data protection of persons. Got 'if I would want to response' to this letter. Maybe received many letters to my previous address I lived till 2017. That previous address was on passport too. Option would he she checked and I don't remember.ផោមក្លិនស្អុយ wrote: ↑Thu Jan 13, 2022 10:27 amDoesn't make much sense.
The mother, you can't remember - so a one night stand? Did you give her your passport as collateral whilst you went to ATM.
How does a one night stand find your after 6+ years? Who has contacted you, the government? Which government?
Difficult to answer on other questions. We were drunk all the time. 22 or 23 days and nights together. Woke up drunk, went to sleep drunk.
I have no idea. Last few days are complete gone from memory. Remember everything after we landed on transitional airport.
Why don’t you want to talk to your son? If you can keep it secret that you’re receiving letters and pictures at your residence where your wife is living with you, surely you can find time to make the odd video call every now and then?
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Are you really worried that your current wife would leave you because of something that happened before you met her?
I would not be that much worried, your current wife leaving you, when it turns out you have more siblings, than she currently knows about. This is pretty normal in Khmer land and largely accepted, especially, when you are the "money-man". Put aside your Western expectations around that issue, it's a non-issue.
Welcome the boy, he is a human being and the best for him will be, to accept his existence and treat him accordingly. That way, he can work on a future.
Regarding the money around this: Of course, Khmers just assume, you share everything you have, etc. As such, expect to pay for the kids education, etc.
Welcome the boy, he is a human being and the best for him will be, to accept his existence and treat him accordingly. That way, he can work on a future.
Regarding the money around this: Of course, Khmers just assume, you share everything you have, etc. As such, expect to pay for the kids education, etc.
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I get that this guy's kid was created before he met his current wife, and thus she may not be as bothered, but are you insinuating that Cambodian women wouldn't care if their husband fathered a child after they were already married? Give me a break. I bet you're one of those gormless neckbeards that think Asian women are submissive.v12 wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 12:32 pmI would not be that much worried, your current wife leaving you, when it turns out you have more siblings, than she currently knows about. This is pretty normal in Khmer land and largely accepted, especially, when you are the "money-man". Put aside your Western expectations around that issue, it's a non-issue.
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Don’t get your knickers all twisty.Starving Pelican wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 3:06 pmI get that this guy's kid was created before he met his current wife, and thus she may not be as bothered, but are you insinuating that Cambodian women wouldn't care if their husband fathered a child after they were already married? Give me a break. I bet you're one of those gormless neckbeards that think Asian women are submissive.v12 wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 12:32 pmI would not be that much worried, your current wife leaving you, when it turns out you have more siblings, than she currently knows about. This is pretty normal in Khmer land and largely accepted, especially, when you are the "money-man". Put aside your Western expectations around that issue, it's a non-issue.
That issue is an non-issue, unlike those issues which are issues and those other issues which are real issues. And then there is the Big Issue, that’s an entirely different issue.
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Any non-issue is a potential issue, if you're a lawyer.ផោមក្លិនស្អុយ wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 3:48 pmDon’t get your knickers all twisty.Starving Pelican wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 3:06 pmv12 wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 12:32 pmI would not be that much worried, your current wife leaving you, when it turns out you have more siblings, than she currently knows about. This is pretty normal in Khmer land and largely accepted, especially, when you are the "money-man". Put aside your Western expectations around that issue, it's a non-issue.
I get that this guy's kid was created before he met his current wife, and thus she may not be as bothered, but are you insinuating that Cambodian women wouldn't care if their husband fathered a child after they were already married? Give me a break. I bet you're one of those gormless neckbeards that think Asian women are submissive.
That issue is an non-issue, unlike those issues which are issues and those other issues which are real issues. And then there is the Big Issue, that’s an entirely different issue.
When in London I’d always get accosted by those Big Issue sellers.ផោមក្លិនស្អុយ wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 3:48 pmDon’t get your knickers all twisty.Starving Pelican wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 3:06 pmI get that this guy's kid was created before he met his current wife, and thus she may not be as bothered, but are you insinuating that Cambodian women wouldn't care if their husband fathered a child after they were already married? Give me a break. I bet you're one of those gormless neckbeards that think Asian women are submissive.v12 wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 12:32 pmI would not be that much worried, your current wife leaving you, when it turns out you have more siblings, than she currently knows about. This is pretty normal in Khmer land and largely accepted, especially, when you are the "money-man". Put aside your Western expectations around that issue, it's a non-issue.
That issue is an non-issue, unlike those issues which are issues and those other issues which are real issues. And then there is the Big Issue, that’s an entirely different issue.
“Big ISSUE, Bg ISSUE”
“Bless you” I’d hilariously say in reply.
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In a parallel relationship: That would make things certainly more difficult, though I have first-hand seen this happening, where there is a lot of shouting, though also coming into acceptance ....Starving Pelican wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 3:06 pmI get that this guy's kid was created before he met his current wife, and thus she may not be as bothered, but are you insinuating that Cambodian women wouldn't care if their husband fathered a child after they were already married? Give me a break. I bet you're one of those gormless neckbeards that think Asian women are submissive.v12 wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 12:32 pmI would not be that much worried, your current wife leaving you, when it turns out you have more siblings, than she currently knows about. This is pretty normal in Khmer land and largely accepted, especially, when you are the "money-man". Put aside your Western expectations around that issue, it's a non-issue.
The OP is writing about a serial relationship, which is what I (at least) intend to reflect on
Submissive Asian women: Hmmmmm, not that many, I think, though money for living is also (if not more) important.
Mia Noi ????
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