I'm not catholic and I'm not a mother so I can't offer anything in way of a suggestion of how to move forward.
Have you spoken to your embassy regarding the matter - they might be able to give you some information that narrows down the choices or directs you in a particular way.
Sorry for your loss.
I'm going to delete my rant at the clueless posters (the worst of those posters' posts now deleted). Some threads shouldn't be hijacked by debate, personal opinions on anything other than the question posted, or by rants.
After a Miscarriage
And then, nothing.
Nothing. For the longest time. Nothing.
But then, Person D, it’s not quite the same as losing a child who’s actually lived properly, is it?.
Yeah, It's probably going to hit harder and harder to have that happen later on in the pregnancy period, but miscarriages happen more often during the initial period, especially if the girl is getting pregnant for the first time, and/or the dad, a raging middle aged alcoholic, with a measly sperm count. I guess for anyone to lose their child before dying themselves, will suffer.
Does every thread have to involve some poster making it all about him? This is clearly meaningful to her and she says she wants a service - you know that. Explaining to you like you're spoiled children why it's meaningful apparently won't work so just go beg for attention in another thread.
ETA - Went ahead and deleted some content as well. If some people don't know by now then they probably will never.
ETA - Went ahead and deleted some content as well. If some people don't know by now then they probably will never.
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Not true. Check wikipedia, search catholic + cremationnightmare.believer wrote:I, too, am catholic, so I thought about your situation from that perspective. Catholicism does not condone cremation. If a catholic is cremated, the soul cannot go to heaven until Jesus comes back to earth to judge the living and the dead.
'refuted as early as Minucius Felix, in his dialogue Octavius'
This is important. Get your facts straight.
I've attended three cremations of Catholics which were supported by Catholic priests.
ירי ילדים והפצצת אזרחים דורש אומץ, כמו גם הטרדה מינית של עובדי ההוראה.
vladimir wrote:
This is important. Get your facts straight.
There are no "facts" when discussing religion.
I don't know who are referring to, but my mother is still sadden about the abortion she had in 1964, and my first wife always have a tear for her two abortions in the 90' and remember the dates, but nothing about her multiple miscarriages.Jessb52 wrote:
Oh, and whoever said that abortion is the same as miscarriage: you're a fucking idiot.
Abortions and miscarriages are not the same but can be very traumatizing both.
What do you think? Mothers are having recreational abortions like going to the dentist ?
Miscarriages are very common and most of the time the body just flush out weak or wrongly developed fetus. I am very sadden for the loss of the lady and wish her to be strong about this. Going all drama and keeping a 3cm fetus like a relic is maybe not the best way to deal with this.
Yes it's very sad, but please don't compare a 9 week fetus with my 3 years old little niece who drowned in a pool of water last week. That is devastating, a early miscarriage is not.
Next time you call someone a fucking idiot give a name and don't just say "someone".
HI Jackal, thanks for your apology, I really appreciate it.Jackal wrote:I understand, sorry. I was a bit rough.
It's easier to bring across what I originally typed face to face than in text. LL had a rather nice suggestion - that you plant a tree above whatever remains are released. That could give you something to re-visit in future, if you need to.
I'm a father myself, but have tended to not treat pregnancy as "real" until 12 weeks, as it's very uncertain until after that point.
Again, sorry.
To those who gave suggestions and offered their sympathies, thank you very much.