Fuck youThe third man wrote:Then shut the fuck up beaker. Clearly you've got nothing to contribute.
You were advised by Joon to leave this thread, so beat it.
Questions About Sexual Assault and Khmer Children
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I used to me a Mod. Had a Lambretta and everything.
But I thought Chuck Wow is getting that position.
I'd just like you to take the leash off me for a few minutes so I can breath, Sheriff.
But I thought Chuck Wow is getting that position.
I'd just like you to take the leash off me for a few minutes so I can breath, Sheriff.
Nope, nope and nope. Now, let's not jinx this thread by having you as last post's author, Batshit.
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You're just angry cause I didn't say Vespa, Joon.
To try and contribute: I don't like to compare, as every case is different depending on how the trauma effects her.
I would imagine she has a phobia for being alone with men, but I could be wrong. The best way forward, as I see it, is to develop trust with other men that are not going to hurt her.
I would imagine that it will be a long road, as once trust is gone, it is hard to regain. But persistence is the key, and accepting that it can be dealt with and not ignored is the only way forward.
Seek professional help.
To try and contribute: I don't like to compare, as every case is different depending on how the trauma effects her.
I would imagine she has a phobia for being alone with men, but I could be wrong. The best way forward, as I see it, is to develop trust with other men that are not going to hurt her.
I would imagine that it will be a long road, as once trust is gone, it is hard to regain. But persistence is the key, and accepting that it can be dealt with and not ignored is the only way forward.
Seek professional help.
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my 2c for consideration
..she will have great difficulty trusting... other people, in herself and that everything will be ok.
The anxiety will be linked to a perception that everything can change at any minute. She can't trust that how she views the world and others is 'accurate'. She can't trust that it all won't come crashing down at any time.
She needs reassurance and, as Joon says, to feel protected.
She needs consistency in behaviour to her ...consistency between when she is ok and when she is struggling. Consistency will be important. That will help her to trust that things will not crumble.
..she will have great difficulty trusting... other people, in herself and that everything will be ok.
The anxiety will be linked to a perception that everything can change at any minute. She can't trust that how she views the world and others is 'accurate'. She can't trust that it all won't come crashing down at any time.
She needs reassurance and, as Joon says, to feel protected.
She needs consistency in behaviour to her ...consistency between when she is ok and when she is struggling. Consistency will be important. That will help her to trust that things will not crumble.
The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled.
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Post edited by scoffer and poster asked to refrain from making further comments on this thread.
OP,
First of all, since you describe yourself as being prone to anxiety and depression yourself, take care of yourself and realize you can only handle so much yourself. The main rule when helping others is to take care of yourself first.
Second, from my own experience (I 'discovered' quite some similar cases during my career in education back home), be careful to raise expectations with your girlfriend you can not fulfill, and be extremely careful what you promise her. Every promise you make to her you have to keep - and when people are in an emotional state of mind they tend to make promises they can't keep (we'll solve the problem, I will never tell anybody, you'll feel better soon - stuff like that - I'm sure you can think of a few more if you sit down for a minute) just to ease up the situation. In my days back then working at a high school, after finding out another case of child abuse, I would plan a few sessions with the student with only one goal: direct him or her to a professional.
Resulting from first and second my advise is to look for professional help asap if you consider your relationship with this girl as really important. If it's not for her, than maybe as a support for yourself. Life will be tough for the two you for a while now Pandora's box has been opened I guess.....
Good luck.
First of all, since you describe yourself as being prone to anxiety and depression yourself, take care of yourself and realize you can only handle so much yourself. The main rule when helping others is to take care of yourself first.
Second, from my own experience (I 'discovered' quite some similar cases during my career in education back home), be careful to raise expectations with your girlfriend you can not fulfill, and be extremely careful what you promise her. Every promise you make to her you have to keep - and when people are in an emotional state of mind they tend to make promises they can't keep (we'll solve the problem, I will never tell anybody, you'll feel better soon - stuff like that - I'm sure you can think of a few more if you sit down for a minute) just to ease up the situation. In my days back then working at a high school, after finding out another case of child abuse, I would plan a few sessions with the student with only one goal: direct him or her to a professional.
Resulting from first and second my advise is to look for professional help asap if you consider your relationship with this girl as really important. If it's not for her, than maybe as a support for yourself. Life will be tough for the two you for a while now Pandora's box has been opened I guess.....
Good luck.
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Just the fact that she can confide in you is a very big milestone for her.
Just listening and make her feel understood. No need to advice her for the time being.
Just listening and make her feel understood. No need to advice her for the time being.
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